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writes:I met this guy during an orientation camp. He's not exactly the tall dark handsome type. But I am extremely drawn to his personality. We're similar in many ways (our likes and dislikes etc). We've been texting constantly since camp ended and he always texts me good night and good morning. So far we've been on two dates,one of which was even spontaneous. He travelled half an hour to just meet me for dinner and send me home when its not very convenient for him. I'm really fond of him, but are there any signs I can look out for to see if he's interested in me or just a genuinely nice guy?
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reader, anonymous, writes (15 August 2013): I agree with blonde30s and maria that you shouldn't rush into things. However, two points you should consider:1. Sometimes it is good to strike while the iron is hot. It would be a shame if something is really there between you two but the moment passes.2. As a guy myself, it doesn't sound to me like a phoney way of being nice. The good night / good morning thing strikes me as being genuinely sweet. Also, he already had you out for the evening and drove you home (when it was not convenient for him) and didn't pressure you into anything, so that's a good sign that he's not just trying to get in your pants and then throw you away.I particular disagree with maria's suggestion that he is not interested in you and is just nice if he doesn't do anything after a month. It could be that he is waiting for a sign from you. The nicest guys will usually wait for a strong sign, so that they do not make a girl uncomfortable or pressure her.From a guy's point of view, I think he really likes you. Serious.Don't jeopardize your safety, of course. If at any point warning bells go off and you start to think he's actually not a nice guy and actually a psycho, then don't involve yourself further with him and seek help if necessary. But let's cross our fingers that that is not the case!Take all of this for what it is worth, and good luck for what could possibly become a wonderful romantic adventure!
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reader, maria.niz  +, writes (15 August 2013):
Well, it seems like he's really interested. If you're not sure of his feelings, take things slowly, as blonde30s said, but make him understand that you like him. If after a months he doesn't do anything, well, he's just a really nice guy. If he does, well, then go ahead :)
Be sure by the way that you really know him, and that he's not one of those guys who pretend to be nice until they have you, you don't deserve that kind of guys, nobody does.
Good luck!
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reader, anonymous, writes (15 August 2013): Sheesh, what more does he need to do to tell you he is interested?????
A guy doesn't text a particular girl good night and good morning every day just because he is a nice guy.
You've listed a ton of solid signs that he's interested in you.
Go get him, tiger!
If you want take it to the next level and make out with this guy, just spend an evening alone with him at his place or yours. With the level of attraction and affection between you, I'm sure nature will step in and turn you two into an item....
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