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writes: I'm 27 and I've been seeing this girl for about a month and a half. We are in love with each other and love spending time together. I've never been in a loving relationship before and I've never wanted to satisfy a woman more than I do her, she means the world to me...Anyway, when we start fooling around I get very hard, and I have no problem staying hard while giving or receiving oral sex with her, but when it's time for intercourse, I lose it. It's happened 4 times now and it's really weighing on my mind. She told me once that she thinks that she's doing something wrong, but I've reassured her that it's not her by telling her that she is the most beautiful girl in the world and maybe this is just happening because I want it so bad and I know she does too and my nerves get in the way...so what I do to suffice is give her oral sex and she loves it and I love it too, but I can't keep just doing that, i have to have intercourse with her sooner or later because I'm scared she will eventually leave me because of it. I've never had this problem before and now that it's happened, it's happened with the one girl I am in love with, I'm freaked out about it...can someone relate to this? Can someone help?
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reader, Little H  +, writes (25 February 2009):
 I think you are worried you won't be able to satisy her when you are having sexual intercourse that's why you probably loose your erection.
As this is your first loving relationship you probably feel sex needs to be good, satsifying and immense. It seems you are very nervous when it comes to intercourse so i think you need to take your time and relax. Spend longer on foreplay and then when you feel ready and relaxed move on to sexual intercourse.
Tell her why you are loosing your erection i am sure she will understand and help you to relax and reassure you that there is no need to worry.
If you are both that much in love then sex will not have to be such a priority.
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