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writes:I think I'm in love with my soccer coachhe is 5 years older then me, he is 21. He is funny, cute and smart. He spends most of his time at training with me and at games he often sits next to me on the bench.I didn't think I liked him till one day I looked into his big blue beautiful eyes and everything seemed right in the world.I thought I would forget about him when the season was over but it is now 2 months later and i cant get him out of my head.I dont know what to do, pls help Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (12 November 2009): Tell him...? I don't know about the legalities in your state, but if it is an issue maybe talk to him and find out if he feels the same way, or try and establish a friendship on an equal basis. Then you can wait until you're a little older before taking the relationship any further. Are you sure that it's him you've fallen in love with, and not a fantasy image that he can never live up to - do you have things in common, for example (other than soccer being the obvious)? I only say this because sometimes we get caught up in things and start not to see faults in people, or think practically about whether a relationship could function, and course when it comes down to it we realise how disappointing the reality is, which can ultimately be just as crushing as rejection. The fact you have not seen him for 2 months could perhaps have contributed to this - the may have heard the expression "distance makes the heart grow fonder, helping to contribute to the idealised image - a combination of this and wanting what is not available at that time. That said, people cannot get a full idea of the situation via the internet, and without knowing both of you as people, so only you can make a decision. x
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reader, anonymous, writes (12 November 2009): hi i think u might have a crush, do you feel all happy when hes around you does he make you nervous but in a good way do u keep smiling when u see him or think of him and when your not with him ar u thinking what u could say to him, if so its a big crush and crushes dont last long hun and that feeling is great to have but personally you are 16 and hes 21 and most guys i know at 21 arent on the same wave lenght as 16 just be careful hes much older an he can use that to his advantage
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