| A
female
age
30-35,
anonymous
writes: I am a 17 year old girl. I'm not a typical teenager. I have no true friends. I'm not invited to parties and I don't drink or smoke. Guys don't seem to be interested in me at all. Maybe this will explain what I'm about to tell you and why I feel the way I do about this man. I got a major crush on him when i was 13. He was 44. Harmless right? I'm now 17 and he's 50. Sometimes he is so sweet and nice to me but recently he has been cold and it's almost as if he hates me. He stares at me alot but sometimes it's as if he is trying to hurt me. The other night I was staring at him and he knew this. I could see it on his face, he then kept making obvious glances at this woman. Yes woman, and so I averted my gaze but kept my composure. I then looked back to see him staring at me. I don't know if he is humouring my stupid infatuation with him. He is a catholic priest I might I add.I would think he would be more considerate of my feelings. I can't stop thinking about him and I've been non stop crying for the past four days.When I think of how he probably doesn't care I cry harder. I feel like I don't know who he is anymore and it's like he doesn't care about me anymore. Like my feelings mean nothing. I can never ask him how he feels or be with him. I want to get over him. I want to be normal. Please can anyone help me!? I think I may fail my exams because of how depressed I am. I can't stop thinking about him and this other woman who works at the church. It would make more sense if he was in love with her rather than me. But my whole heart is screaming that he loves me. Once he flirted with her infront of me and ignored me then he stared over in my direction. It's killing me. I'm crying as I write this. It seems every guy I've ever fell for has broken my heart. I sound pathetic and I know I am, but this is my stupid life and I need advice. How can I move on? How can I show him that he can't hurt me anymore? Do i ignore him? I can't stop going to church. If he was ever to be transferred I don't think I could go on with life. This was long but you need to know the whole story. Oh and if you're thinking it's 'daddy issues' you could be right. My father is a horrible excuse for a human being. God someone help please /3
View related questions:
crush, depressed, flirt, move on, my ex Reply to this Question
Share |
Fancy yourself as an agony aunt? Add your answer to this question! A
female
reader, anonymous, writes (25 April 2011): Thank you for all your responses. I can seperate myself from him, but sometimes, when he comes into the sachristy, he will look right at me and smile and say hello only to me. He then stares at me to the point im uncomfortable whilst he's doing other things. Really, how can I avoid that? This is why I'm so confused. He's either all over me, or he acts like he hates me. What the hell? I am going to ignore him from now on unless he says hello. I'll say hey, that's fair enough but it's just hard you know. We used to get on really well. I noticed him staring at me all the time so what else was i supposed to think? Thank you for all your lovely and understanding answers. xxx
A
reader, anonymous, writes (25 April 2011): if you have a crush on him, and he's noticed it, then you are putting him into a vulnerable position.
He has successfully resisted you for three years, which is to his credit. But no doubt he has noticed your infatuation. He has far more to lose than you. His life, his calling, his career, his reputation, his career. You name it.
The kindest thing would be for you to get some counselling, not from him. Go to the one who is in charge of your priest, ask for help to overcome this crush.
He is not trying to hurt you. He is trying to protect his own life from being turned inside out. You pose a threat to his very existence. Doctors, teachers, priests and people in authority often get these crushes from a younger person. The professional thing is for the person to reject the crush, so that their lives are not ruined
...............................
A
female
reader, anonymous, writes (25 April 2011): Hi,That is one special story you have there.Honestly I don't know what advice to give you that will be useful but I'll still give it a shot.First of all, don't feel so down on yourself. Infatuation can't always be controlled and sometimes we fancy people that maybe we shouldn't fancy, but hey it happens.It seems you have know this priest for a long time, for that reason I suggest you try to tell him about all this somehow. I doubt very much that he will be inconsiderate about it.Also, I would like to suggest making new friends. I was quite similar to you, no true friends, no drinking, no smoking and all that, then I decided I needed to get out of my little bubble, so I started talking to people more. I made great friends who understand my values, so I am telling you good people exist out there, you just need to find them.Good Luck
...............................
A
female
reader, anonymous, writes (25 April 2011): Ok. I really want to help you. As a married woman who is 37 this is my advice to you. This man is not available to you. He is a priest. It is killing you to be in his presence because you are in love. I recommend that you separate yourself from him. It is going to be very very hard to do this but you have to. Find something else... Someone else to think about and you will heal. I promise. It will take a few months but you must listen to me. Good luck
...............................
A
female
reader, anonymous, writes (24 April 2011): another thing I should add is that he encouraged this for the past four years of my life. No one ever saw how he stared at me all during mass. No one understands what I'm going through and I can't tell anybody. I hate my life. I likely won't get any replies either. If anyone bothered to read this then thank you.
...............................
|
