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writes:well try on a 20 year relationship that i was always waiting on to be perfect nicest guy ever but after many years drug addiction did us in ! and i met someone else alot younger who makes me happier than i ever have been but my heart is still with my ex who everyday i think of getting back together with he calls this "the triangle" so with all this comes several years of mental problems which at this age now identified as the culprit being many years of making bad decisions or not being able to make a decision at all so here i am at the ripe age of 40 caught between 2 my ex has since cleaned up and now totally understand where i am coming from started seeing someone which drives me crazy and says he cannot wait forever which i understand my new man has fallen so deep for me and loves me so much that no matter what decision i make i will be devastated and so will one of them i bounce back and forth driving myself crazy and say ok i made a decision for the next couple days start doubting my decision so if anyone has any suggestions on how you make a decision like this or how you made a decision any input would be great i love them both so much and tried the letting them both go that didn't work either they both just tried harder
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reader, becklor +, writes (17 May 2010):
i would just go with the person i really deep down in my heart love the most. if you are at age 40 you need to start staying with just one man for the rest of your life. you need to slow things down and really think about it. who have you been with longer, who do you know better, who treats you better, who calls you baby and makes you happy? these are things you need to think of and ask yourself.
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reader, anonymous, writes (16 May 2010): You need to spare your current bf a large amount of heart ache and let him go--you will never be in love with him or anyone else b/c you are still in love with your ex. The feelings you have for your ex is not wrong, it's the fact that you dragged an innocent guy into this mess when you knew that you were still in love with your ex is where the problem is.
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reader, anonymous, writes (16 May 2010): Your ex is moving on, maybe you should do the same. Your decision to make is for yourself, not for your ex or bf. You have a great boyfriend in your life, he shouldn't have to fight for your love or to just to have only you. I also don't see much of a triangle here. Just because your ex said it was one, does't mean it really is and it would only be a triangle if you allow it to be. You are 40 years old, try to act more like an adult and less like a teenager. Make a decision and stick to it. Best be careful, you end up alone and miserable. Take some time off to clear your head, and ask your self some goal oriented questions like "where do i see myself in a few years" or "who is it do i want to spend the rest of my life with", that sort of stuff. The only one who has the answer to your problems, is you. Good Luck.
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