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*nitica1994
writes:Hi, my little brother is now turning 12 and sometimes I am really woried because he acts like a homosexual. He doesnt like cars, sports or any of those man things. Insted he likes cooking, helping in the house, fix clothes, HE LIKES EVERYTHING TO BE PERFECT and he only haves girl friends no boys at all. I am really concerned because my dad died 7 years ago, my mom is not really a boyfriend mom and my older brother is never home,there is not like a male presence on the house.What should in do???? Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (1 January 2009): I have seen this before I was shy growing up and I was a mothers boy and I was the youngest. Only me and my other brother in my family. He turned out fine but there were problems with me growing up. I used to take my mothers side on everything as a kid. I didn't know any better as a kid I looked up to my mother and became just like her. Only to live a nightmare as an adult realizing I became gay. All the other guys noticed in school that something wasn't right and tortured me. I was determined to find out a solution and after many days and years went by I finally found the answers I was looking for. I'm not expecting everyone to just believe me although I will answer the solution to the genome to help you to better understand. Men and women have 2 different distinct personalities and this is where the production of the masculine, and feminine chromosomes are produced. Your feelings men are generally stronger than women mentally. There is the algebraic equations that people have been in search of and simple solutions. Men who are masculine = straight chromosome production. Men who are feminine = gay chromosome production. Because of the limitation of English words it is harder to describe. If a boy grows up with his self indulgence to be like a woman. This doesn't make him transgenders. Because if you observe the way a straight woman looks over a man well. I hate to tell you but the child is innocent they are not born that way they mimic the ones they look up to. This is sometimes subconscious the kid thinks its normal because they have not been noticed. Don't let the mistakes that have happened to me happen to you, your brothers, or sisters. If you are Gay or lesbian study by mimicking and observing the feelings of the straight person of the same sex. "Our thoughts become things growing up". Please don't let them live the nightmare I had to experience becoming a confused adult. I didn't know what was happening to me but people never realize that a "mothers boy" is at risk if nobody pays attention.
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reader, anonymous, writes (21 October 2008): if the relationsship between you and your brother is closer then the relations between your brother and your mother. Maybe you could talk to him and see if he has a girlfriend or what girls he may like at school, let him know that if he needs anyone to talk to that your always avaliable. Whatever he chooses let him know that you love him no matter what, for it is better to have a gay brother then a distance brother who might shut him self off from you and your family.
Growing up he's always been quite and kept to him self, when he was about 5 he used to play dress up with our little sisters, you know the whole nine, make up and all. But I didn't pay much attention to it, because thats what kids do, he grew up in a house full of women, I thought is was normal (what everthat is). I have 2 boys and i'm not going to hide the fact that my brothers gay thats still my brother and there uncle.
I said all that to say this i'm 30years old and I have a little brother who just turned 17, and his mother called me crying because he's gay. I told here that reguardless of his sexually preferance I will love him with all the love in my heart. No one wants there kids, or anyone in there family to be gay but it happends. She thinks it's just a fad. I told her that if he is gay you can't push what your wants on him, you can't make a gay guy be attracted to a women and vis-versa. He's been with a girl, but he never really brought any girls home, I'm not sure if hes saying that to make his mom happy, or if hasn't. Either way I love him, my little brother JONATHAN.
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reader, Jamer70  +, writes (22 September 2008):
 There not being a man around doesnt make him gay at all
Neither does what you stated, i like cooking and am fairly clean. Some peoplelike different things its how we are made and hardwired. Hes only 12 and inding himself
Just be a supportive sister whomever he turns out to be
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reader, zelgamer  +, writes (22 September 2008):
 I only had female friends until highschool, and the only sport I like is running, I don't watch any sports, I don't like these so called "man things" because it's not how I like to spend my time. I didn't have a girlfriend until highschool, he's only 12, let him do what he wants. By the way I'm not gay and I ended up marrying a beautiful girl.Being gay is also a preference and in the end it's his life to do what makes him happy, no one elses.
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reader, unluckyboy +, writes (22 September 2008):
just a preference? Being gay is known as a sin to many. But talk to your mum about it, i'm sure his not. You'll find out in a few years down the line. :)
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reader, anonymous, writes (22 September 2008): Why do you care if he is gay? If he is gay, let him be gay and support him. He is your brother, gay or not. When you really love someone you let them be who they are, not who you want or think they should be.
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reader, anonymous, writes (22 September 2008): Lack of male presence isn't what makes someone gay. If he is gay then he probably always has been and always will be and there is nothing wrong with that. Your worrying or actions won't change anything.
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reader, anonymous, writes (22 September 2008): Even if he is...that doesnt matter. He could of just been so used to being around girls and picked up on what you, your mom and his friends do. Hes young, let him figure out if he wants to be gay. Not all guys at that age are into the 'man' things.
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reader, anonymous, writes (22 September 2008): um like the other person said, he could just want to be the man of the house. all men don't like the same things. but if he is gay then you have to respect that. he's your brother, you should love him no matter what.
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reader, Tremor  +, writes (22 September 2008):
 Just because he doesn't like 'man' things and has female friends doesn't mean he is gay. It's a stereotype that gay men like cooking and clothing - they can just as easily like cars and sports. It's not a person's interests that define their sexuality.
Perhaps your brother is trying to take on the role of the man in the house, since you mentioned that there is no male presence. Maybe he is simply trying to give your mother a hand.
And even if he DOES turn out to be gay - big deal. Who cares? Lots of people are gay - it's not a bad thing, it's just a preference.
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