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female
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30-35,
anonymous
writes:My boyfriend was with his ex for 5 years. They have been split up for 2 years now and me and him have been togeher for 9 months. When he split up with his ex they were still sleeping together and she got pregnant she got rid of the baby and my boyfriend was heart broken. Now she wants to meet up with him and talk about it. I do understand that they were together for a very long time and she will allways be special to him because she was his first love. But why does she want to bring up stuff that has happend in the past when he has moved on? it makes me worried because its going to bring up his feelings and get him upset again? he says he understands but clearly he doesnt as hes not in my position. am i being unreasonable or is it her?
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reader, deirdre  +, writes (25 February 2009):
your not being unreasonable I would feel quite p***ed off
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reader, jessica04  +, writes (23 February 2009):
 If he truly has moved on from all of their past, then I don't think he should be seeing her to bring back old, painful memories. You are right on that part.I can understand though that he might still have some feelings of responsibility towards her well being. I mean, it was his job as her BF for 5 years. Assuming that he is your age, he was with her during some very emotional and trying times in his development, and it can be hard to let those memories go.Talk with him. If he is over everything, then she doesn't need him for her closure. If she wants to apologize, fine, but otherwise she needs to rest assured that the subject is closed. Knowing that he has gotten over things should be closure enough for her.
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