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writes:I'm really concerned about my 12 year old brother. I've always gotten more attention than him, which used to drive me nuts because he could always get away with things that I couldn't, but lately I've been seeing this in a different light. I'm 18, and I'm leaving for university next year, and even so I still get constant advice (not always wanted) about what I should do and how I should be doing it. But I feel like my brother just gets ignored. He spends most of his time in his room with the door shut- no one knows how late he stays up, who he talks to, he's even got a webcam and password on his computer. When he asks for things he always gets them and no one questions him. Last night, he confided in me that he almost tried pot a few weeks back. He's 12!! He was with some friends downtown who were going to smoke up, and they asked him if he wanted to go with them. He said yes, but then at the last minute he walked away. I'm proud of him, but what I don't understand is why no one knew where he was. My mom is in a fairly new relationship and a new, challenging job right now, and I know that's taking up most of her resources. I also know that she feels guilty about how much time she gave me as a child compared to my brother, which is likely why she tends to give in when he asks for stuff and not discipline him. Also, she desperately wants to trust him, and denies that he could possibly be doing anything dangerous against her wishes.So my question is this: how do I approach my mom, and address this issue without just making her defensive, or betraying my brother's trust? I really want to take her up and show her that she's not doing her job.
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reader, anonymous, writes (1 March 2008): Hi Hunny
I can see why you are concerned and I feel that you need to do this before you go away so that you feel your brother is safe, (NOT THAT HE ISNT) Safe as in your mum knowing what he is doing Im sending you a link that is for parents and you may get some info from that to help you in the right direction sweetheart, I would say just sit down with your mum and say your worried about your brother that you see he is alone alot of the time and are concerned of what he may be feeling and see how that goes hunny I hope this link will help in some way your a good sister love..
http://parentingteens.about.com/
HOPE THIS HELPS A LITTLE TAKE CARE OF YOU 2 LOVE N HUGS MANDY XXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXX
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