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writes:Im 15 nearly 16, i am going out with a girl 2 and a half years younger than me (13 nw). i really like her and think that the relationship may go somewhere. I do not mind the age difference and neither does she but when my friends found out they were shocked. Should i feel ashamed? i was already scared of telling my parents bt nw i really do nt want too. ive been seeing her behind their back, im not enjoying it, but i feel it needs to be done for my happiness. I dont feel bad but im getting affect because of wt people might think. Any advice?P.S. i would never have underage sex Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (24 February 2009): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionPlease don't judge me... i am not in it for the sex or would i be worried?I'm 3 months away from being 16. i signed up today for this site today and ive never kissed a girl before. Im in it because it is fun and i enjoy spending time with her, she looks great yes but im not thinking about that. i dont want fun times to end and i dnt think of my 16th birthday as my free ticket to sex. as a person myself i am very shy, well behaved and humourous. I respect her and her decisions. i really like her for who she is nt her age... i get nothing different out of it because of that. I don't know how you could think in this way
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reader, anonymous, writes (24 February 2009): Yes the age diffrence is too big. At 16 you can have sex, at 13 she's got another three years to go and you need to wait or prison could be an optiton for you. Honestly I remember being 16 and can't see what your get out of going out with a girl so much younger than you (in teen years)
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reader, anonymous, writes (24 February 2009): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionJust to let ppl know, im really worried about my parents. If they could understand it would be ok, but i know they wont, they are very old fashioned. i dnt care wt my friends think only the fact that they might let it slip.
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reader, anonymous, writes (24 February 2009): i can see why you think that people will think your a poedo and a perv and stuff but, i've been in the same posision as that girl just last month and believe me No One thought anything bad of us because of out age gap!! just go with your heart, do whatever you think is best..
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reader, Olivia(Y). +, writes (24 February 2009):
 Don't listen to your friends. They will get over it in a while.
My boyfriend is 17 and i'm 14 and we have been together for ages now.
If you think this relationship will work then go for it. Age difference doen't matter.
Good luck.
Olivia
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reader, jessica04  +, writes (24 February 2009):
 As long as her parents are ok, I think your fine. Just be preapared (as you have already found out) to have others who disagree with what you're doing. Sometimes age really is just a number.
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reader, anonymous, writes (24 February 2009): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questioni know they wont though, they want me to concentrate on studying and making a good life, but they dont realise the other parts to life aswell. and i have been brought up to respect whatever my parents say so i dont think i can change their minds. i dnt mind keeping it from them, but i Do mind wt people may think of me. like a pedo or perv because of this and i know that im not.
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reader, just here to help +, writes (24 February 2009):
 if you are happy with the age difference and she is too, then why should it matter what other people think? you cant let them rule your life. if you love this girl then stick with her! if you dont feel comfertable keeping it from your parents; then tell them. they'll understand..
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reader, anonymous, writes (24 February 2009): It's a difficult one, and I can see why you may feel confused. Other peoples opinions can really infuence your desicions, but at the end of it all you have to make a desicion based on what you are feeling.
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reader, anonymous, writes (24 February 2009): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionI was round her house and met her dad, afterwards she told me that he was ok with me and that he was nt bothered by the age difference. we do go to different schools but live near each other. im nt seeking a cheap thrill im really into this (probs heard it b4), im nt guna try anything stupid. i just duno whether i should feel bad because of the age difference and does it matter?
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reader, jessica04 +, writes (24 February 2009):
While she may be excepionally mature for 13, the preconceived notion is that there are huge differences between 13 and 16 yr olds.More than just what your parents might think, what would/ do hers think? If they over react, you could be looking at some nasty legal charges, or just nasty allegations against your character.At your ages, there are just going to be differences. She is young and still going through puberty. You go to different schools. Her thinking is just going to be on a different level than your rational thought process. These are all inarguable.For your own peace of mind, I would suggest cooling things down. If you were 10 years older, this wouldn't be such and issue, and it's not fair to you that it is one right now. But because it is an issue, you should take steps to guard against any misconceptions people might form about you.
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