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writes:The same old question...I'm a 23 year old male, and I'm caught up in some worries about my penis size. It's 5.3 inches long, and about 5.5 inches in girth. Anyway, I know it's scientifically regarded as average, somewhat under for length, somewhat over for girth, so I guess it sort of balances out.However, I've had sex a few times recently with different girls (all independent escorts, I've stopped these sort of encounters through to focus my life on dating, so don't focus on that as my problem, I'm just saying so as not to paint a false picture where I'm picking up girls based on confidence all the time), and a few incidents made me wonder. First, in the most passionate encounter which was also with the only girl I saw more than once, we were trying a few positions and at one point I attempted to penetrate her with both of us standing up and she said "no, it's not big enough for that" and we carried on and it was great... only in retrospect am I now remembering this. With another one, it got very energetic and the condom actually came off during sex (I've been tested since). With another, I found I slipped out quite a lot (she was the tallest of them if that's relevant, and taller than I am). And finally the last one I saw raised her knees up to near her stomach during missionary, which I hear can be related to size not quite being enough, but then I also hear girls like that position even with more well endowed men so...Anyway, are these all just normal things that happen in sex with average guys, or do they hint that by not being the more standard six, or the rarer guys above that, I'm going to have to work harder and might face some disappointment from girls in the dating world. I remember a guy at an old job I worked who did pull a few girls from work and word spread that he had a small cock... The glee most women used when they mocked him for it behind his back was eye opening.Thanks for any advice.
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reader, anonymous, writes (23 October 2012): don't worry it's not size that counts its how you do it, they don't care if you aren't getting deep enough they care on the speed and pressure
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reader, anonymous, writes (14 October 2012): Dude, stop worrying. You're fine! You're a bit bigger than me, and I get around. Learn to work what you have and how to pleasure women. I used to have complexes because I was the smallest most of my girlfriends had, men just can't handle that. You do get over that and get confident when you make them shake and see stars. I got a massive ego boost from an ex I hadn't seen in over 10 years. She wanted to hook up just for sex, she remembered me as her best, she had literally a couple hundred partners in her life and she wants to shag me, the guy with the small one? So dude go easy on yourself, the only one who gives a shit about the size of our dick is you. I it really bothers you look in to jelqing and other exersizes, done right they do work and help with PE as well. I was gaining but my wife DID NOT LIKE the added size. Take my rant for what it's worth my friend, get some confidence and have fun ( safely of course ).
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reader, chigirl  +, writes (14 October 2012):
 "Anyway, I know it's scientifically regarded as average, somewhat under for length, somewhat over for girth, so I guess it sort of balances out."
No... the average isn't 5.5 inches. The average is between 3.9-7.9 inches. 5.5 is just an average of the average. It isn't the average itself. To be below average you'd have to be below 3.9 inches. To be above average you'd have to be above 7.9 inches.
Anything between these numbers is average! And average means: just like all other men out there, and just what women expect and want. Nothing more, nothing less.
What exactly do you think women do when they see your penis, bring out a ruler? Or that we have a ruler inside our vagina that will measure you and say "yes, perfect size!"???
And no, a bigger girth and a shorter length doesn't balance anything out, because the vagina doesn't work to balance things out....
You don't have to work harder. You need to remember that vaginas come in different sizes as well, and your penis shape, in addition with the shape of the vagina, are by far the most important aspects when it comes to positions. The girth is most important when it comes to the "feeling" for the woman. The length of the penis is the least important, as it will make the least difference in experience.
If you stand straight out, or bend downwards, or to the sides, then it wont be easy to do much while standing up. But also, it could be that the woman knows from experience that she can't do that position with your length penis, because her bum stands out too much for instance. So you'd have to be longer to reach. Or maybe she can't lean forward enough, or maybe she's too tall... positions have a lot of variables, and only on the rare occasion is it the length of the penis that is the determining factor.
Same goes for the other examples you mentioned. It's just that those things didn't work with those women. My ex had a big belly for example, it was difficult for him to do me from behind while standing up. He just couldn't reach, because the belly was in the way. Whereas my current boyfriend doesn't have a big belly, and in addition had a penis that curves upwards. So it is possible to stand up with him, but it wasn't possible with my ex (my exes penis also stood straight out, it didn't curve upwards).
Your penis wont disappoint anyone. Your obsession with the penis however will disappoint. Because really, women don't care about your penis half as much as you guys do... And to us, it isn't really that important.... It's not the size of the ship you know.. it's the motion of the ocean.
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