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30-35,
anonymous
writes:A good friend of mine just told me she has a boyfriend. The more she told me, the worse my gut feeling got. He's been pressuring her for sex, and she's turned him down each time so far. She also says the way he talks is "too smooth" at times, like he's said those lines before.They've been going out roughly four months. He has asked her to "stay over" in a few days after a big party, and she has agreed, even though she doesnt want too. They are going to be drinking with friends. I am worried sick because the whole situation makes her so vulnerable. The guy is 25, and has had many girlfriends. She is 19, and inexperienced sexually.This guy sounds like a total creep. Everything about her body language, tone of voice, and facial expression when she talks about him is wrong. She is clearly unhappy, scared, and very nervous. She has told him 'no' to the sex three times already. Is there ANYTHING I can do/say to help her not give in to pressure? Is my horrible gut feeling just in overdrive here? I know the date of when she's suppose to "go over" and I said I'd have my phone on the whole time.
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reader, So_Very_Confused  +, writes (28 December 2011):
 sadly there is nothing you can do but tell your friend how you feel and be available for her if she needs you.
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reader, anonymous, writes (28 December 2011): Well... you're probably not going to like what I say, but all you can really do is tell her to go and make sure she gets the message, even a little bit. And if she doesn't listen, all you can do is let her be. She has to learn from her own mistakes, she's a big girl and in the end, if he really was a total jerk, she will learn and she will be hurt but at least she knows what to stay away from.
...all in all.. just let her learn own her own
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