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writes:Hello, I have been in a relationship for a year with my girlfriend. My girlfriend is a waitress. I recently moved in with her 2 months ago. Everything was going great but then she left her myspace open so i looked at it and saw that she was talking to some guy that always comes into her work. Then I saw that she went to grab a bite to eat with him after work. Then I saw the next message that said. "I almost kissed you last night." She then proceeded to say that i was very uneducated and basically throwing me under the bus. I was really pissed, then I saw that she messaged him and said how she couldnt lead him on like this and she really loves her boyfriend and this is not right. Her boyfriend being me. Then I confronted her about this and she said she screwed up, nothing physical happened, I work all day and she works nights so she was getting very bored and I think she was looking for attention. She is a model and came up from a broken home. I really love her a lot and I am just confused if I should stay with her or break up with her. Please help
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reader, Emilysanswers  +, writes (29 March 2009):
Cool, Good Luck with it xx
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reader, anonymous, writes (29 March 2009): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionwere workin things out. She realizes she screwed up. Ill keep you posted. thanks for all the help
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reader, Emilysanswers +, writes (28 March 2009):
It sounds to me like she just wanted a friend from this guy and he flirted a little but she thought he was ok. It's nice to have someone to jokingly flirt with.
As soon as he stepped over the line she cut contact.
This was not an emotional affair, this was just a bit of a flirt gone a bit far, and when it did, she ended it without ever needing to be told.
So as far as I can see, the main thing she did wrong was not telling you about her friend, and also for slagging you off to him.
I really don't think that is something to spit up over.
Instead just sit her down and try to work out how you can spend more time together and inject some romance into your relationship.
Good Luck!! xx
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reader, anonymous, writes (28 March 2009): Why did you move in with her? Your idea or hers? Have you asked her to marry you? If not she has the right to have other friendships with men and to even go out on a cofee date or dinner or something casual with other guys. She rebuffed the other guy....but if you want her for the rest of your life, if you want to take her off the market then you have to step up and claim her as the ONE.
If not you have to realize you stand to lose her whether you are living with her or not.....you two are really just playing house.....
As far as her comment about you, that seems pretty low class of her to talk to another guy about you, I would say it reflects negatively on her, but she probably didn't really mean it, just having an off day....after all she is with you isn't she? I don't like those social network sites for this very reason, I think they are a stupid way to make a realtionship with someone....so I wouldn't be too concerned about her activity on there.
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reader, tux +, writes (28 March 2009):
 I don't think there is a big problem other than the fact that she loves you how you are even if she thinks you are very uneducated. I don't see any problem with her having lunch or a bite to eat with this guy considering that there is nothing physically happening. She even told them that it wouldn't be right because she loved you. I wouldn't give her a hard time about that.. Maybe the uneducated remark, but then well if you don't have a degree I can see why she might make that.
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