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36-40,
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writes:Hey, well I've been really close with this guy for 3 years now. I can't ever get to like anyone else that much cause it's him I like.We are still close, but i dont see him that much as he lives a few hours drive away. Now he's got a GF and things have changed, but i dont want them to! Any advice!?He says we will always be close, but it feels like I've been replaced. Reply to this Question
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reader, cd206 +, writes (6 June 2007):
 Unfortunately things change whether you want them to or not. And change isn't negative. It's a positive thing that he has someone in his life that makes him happy. Maybe it even frees up some of your time so you can find a special someone. And what's great is that, at your age at least, friends nearly always last longer than lovers. I'm thinking from your post maybe the fact that he has got someone has made you realise you had feelings for him that you weren't aware of. Keep him as a friend but accept that his girlfriend is important to him too. It's not a case of you or her. You can both exist in his life in harmony. The important thing is to embrace the change.
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reader, DV1  +, writes (5 June 2007):
 That's a natural occurrence. A big part of life is understanding that partners tend to come before friendships. Friends are fun, but they generally don't cuddle and kiss, or satisfy other needs. If you really like him, wait it out, and see what happens. If he goes through a breakup, be there for him, and then see if he wants to step it up to the next level. Right now, just continue being a friend. You're not going to see him a lot, so cherish the time that you guys have together... His girlfriend may also feel uncomfortable with him hanging out with another girl, which may explain things.
You'll be ok...
DV1
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