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writes:3 weeks ago i ended things with a guy (guy a)i was seeing (not exclusively)for almost 5 months, he basically lost interest, i had no choice, i didnt want to be strung along, he hasnt spoken to me since. Now, I had just started to really like guy b who ive known for a couple of weeks, I sensed something was off today so i asked him if hes just not that into me and his reply was the old "I really like you alot, but i just don't want a girlfriend" which we all know actually means "meh, you're okay, don't wanna pursue you though." My problem lies here;when I met guy a I was quite closed off, really protective of my heart, he did all the chasing, i obv reciprocated some things, but he was the main chaser, it remained this way for 3 months, when i actually started to open up to him and display interest, he backed off, A LOT. When I met guy B I wasn't attracted to him at 1st, but it grew a lot in a small time, I could really be myself around him, open myself up to allowing myself to feel something, without worrying I was coming off too strong, because he had said he liked me. Until today when i started to worry he would think im clingy or w/e, which led me to ask the question which put an end to any possibilities.I'm not asking how i get these guys, because in my opinion, if they're worth it, they'll know I'm worth it, and they dont. But where do I go from here? The 1st time I've tried to let anyone in in a few years, and they both didn't wanna know. I'm so used to protecting my heart, having barriers, and I like it, but I'm scared that either I wont ever be able to love someone, or when the time comes to let some barriers down, the next person wont like what they see either.I'd like to know what you think I should do with my attitude toward my heart and dating. Reply to this Question
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reader, luckystars88  +, writes (10 September 2009):
your right when you say that if they're worth it they'll know you are. you should be happy and comfortable with who you are and not feel like you have to hide it.. that doesnt mean give them everything and let them know everything right up front. but tell them how you feel about opening up and some of your fears with dating. if they really want you they will accept you for who you are. if not then they arent worth your time either. there will be a lot of guys out there like them and a lot that are different. just keep your options open till you find one who really knows you and loves it. life is short so be happy within yourself and the right guy will come along sooner or later.
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