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writes:My ex and I had started talking again. She told me about a week ago after I told her I couldn't be friends right now that she had been trying to reconcile, but I hurt her feelings, and she thought that we needed to get over each other. I ran into her the other day, we talked, and I eased her concerns. At one point she said, "you finally get it. Sometimes I have just wanted to shake you to make you realize what you have been doing" (refering to the reason she broke up with me, that I put her second in my life and was self centered.) I told her that I was going to show her that she was my first priority by being her friend if that is all she wanted from me and nothing more bc having her in my life on good terms and not mad was more important that not having her at all. (I mean it too, I can get over her if I need to this was not a ploy to get her back). Before I left I told her to think about things and call me in a few days to tell me what she thought about what I said and what she wanted from her(friends, or more). Today, the next day, she started texting me all day, which was cool. I tried to tell her I had to go, bc I am unsure about what this means, and don't want to overdo anything. We just texted/flited about general stuff, nothing heavy. I feel like I am in the right place now, but don't know where to go from here. Do I need to ask her what she is intending or just wait? Should I keep responding to her texting or back off and let her come to me?
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reader, anonymous, writes (19 April 2010): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionI'm worried about texting to much and being to available or getting in the friend zone. But I don't want to be stand offish either. Any advice?
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reader, anonymous, writes (19 April 2010): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionWait how long? I've never been patient.
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reader, anonymous, writes (19 April 2010): Keep texting back and forth, take it slow and let the relationship build back up. I would wait to ask her what she is intending. She is texting you which is a really good sign.
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