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writes:Hi, I have a question. I have never considered myself homosexual, but all my life I have always fantasized of other girls when masturbating, not the guy I liked or had a crush on at the time. Even at a young age! I am in a wonderful relationship right now and I love my boyfriend very much. He's smart, sweet, caring, INCREDIBLY sexy... and we have great sex. But often when he goes down on me, I finish a lot faster and get more enjoyment out of it if I picture my best girl friend down there instead. Rarely, I will even picture my ex-boyfriend. Is this normal? Am I just curious/open/excited by the prospect of something I "can't have"? Or am I a lesbian? Please note that I have never done anything sexual with another woman nor do I feel any sexual tensions around my friend. But I am open to the idea of same-sex relations in the future, since I am hitting my early 20s. But it's not something I'm seriously considering right now.
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reader, anonymous, writes (25 November 2008): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionsarar87, i would say i picture a woman about 80% of the time if not more, and i still enjoy it when my boyfriend goes down on me, but i enjoy it muchhh more when i picture a woman for some reason.
but i know i absolutely cannot love a woman the way i can love a man.
they just for some reason have always turned me on more whenever i've masturbated or anything similar.
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reader, sarar87  +, writes (18 November 2008):
I kind of have the same problem you do. I am 21 and I am almost 99% positive I am straight. Although, I go onto websites that have lesbian erotica and get very turned on. But someone asked me a question that really put things into perspective for me. So I will ask you one like it. When your bf goes down on you, do you always picture a women? do you still get enjoyment when it is just your bf you picture? You might just be a little bi-curious. but I don't think you are a lesbian.
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reader, jess4gotten  +, writes (12 November 2008):
 Hey.
I read your question over and over again. First off - you are most definately, normal.
I am eighteen, female, and am in a similar - if not - identical situation. I am currently with an amazing guy, and have been for just over a year now, and am happy. But our sex life has always been awkward. I seem unable to climax through penetrative sex, so he gives me oral alot, almost as if he were trying to make up for something. When he does, it feels amazing. Until I read your question, I felt guilty about the fact that I always thought about and imagined other girls being down there, instead of him. I thought that I was strange.
I have no doubts about the fact that I am bicurious, and my boyfriend even knows about it. He's okay with it, as long as he can be sure that I am happy in a relationship with him - which I am.
I guess what I'm trying to say, is thankyou. I found this website whilst looking for advice on the exact same issue, trying to discover if I was 'normal'. But discovering even just one other person who was confused about it, confirmed to me that there is nothing wrong with it...so...thankyou.
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reader, jess4gotten +, writes (12 November 2008):
Hey.I read your question over and over again. First off - you are most definitely, normal. I am eighteen, female, and am in a similar - if not - identical situation. I am currently with an amazing guy, and have been for just over a year now, and am happy. But our sex life has always been awkward. I seem unable to climax through penetrative sex, so he gives me oral alot, almost as if he were trying to make up for something. When he does, it feels amazing. Until I read your question, I felt guilty about the fact that I always thought about and imagined other girls being down there, instead of him. I thought that I was strange. I have no doubts about the fact that I am bicurious, and my boyfriend even knows about it. He's okay with it, as long as he can be sure that I am happy in a relationship with him - which I am.I guess what I'm trying to say, is thankyou. I found this website whilst looking for advice on the exact same issue, trying to discover if I was 'normal'. But discovering even just one other person who was confused about it, confirmed to me that there is nothing wrong with it...so...thankyou.
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reader, anonymous, writes (10 November 2008): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionI'd also like to add that I most definitely cannot love a woman the way I can love a man. I can love women as friends, but the butterflies in my stomach or strong emotions associated with loving relationships, are strictly for men. Anything I have for women is sexual, not emotional. Is this normal?
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reader, Miss Potter +, writes (10 November 2008):
 Well if you are open to experimenting - then I would say you are bi curious, when you will try it then you will know whether it is your thing or not.
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