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writes:Well its a really long story so im guna cut it short! well as short as i can. Been with boyfriend 3 1/2 years he has a kid to another woman (1 night stand!!! a big mistake) I have took on his child as if she was my own, i looked after her while my boyfriend would work etc. She would come round every weekend for the whole weekend!His mistake is a complete physco! she would always be phoning us up all hours of the night, trying to start fights with me, stalking me and boyfriend, she would drive 3 miles to park her car on our street and watch our house! Shes even attacked my boyfriend. She punched him in the head so many times he was admitted 2 hospital and she got him charged 4 assalt and aressted even though he didnt do anything! she says she punched him because he kicked her and punched her! Not a mark was found on her!That was all last year and now i hate his daughter! i cant stand to look at her, hear her voice or even find any of her toys lying around! i am slowly trying to erase her from this house and our lives, i keep throwing her things away and iv put everything of hers up in the attic bedroom so i cant see it! I never felt this about her before, i used to love taking care of her, playing with her and doing girly things! now i cant even be in the same room as her and i have even thought about ending my relationship its got that bad! Only problem is me and my boyfriend have our own child now and i dont want to ruin my babys life by being so nasty and evil to his step sister. I will never be able to treat them equally! Im going to turn out to be the wicked step mother if i dont leave my partner! but i dont think i can i love him so much and we have been through so much 2gether! I have told my parnter how i feel and he was really hurt! his daughter only comes round every other week for a couple of hours and even thats still to much 4 me!What should i do? Is it time 4 me to just pack my things and go? Has any1 else ever felt like this? If so what did you do?
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 July 2009): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questioni know thats what i keep telling myself that she is not her mother but its so hard i am trying my hardest to get things back to normal. i honestly did have a fantastic bond with her, when she came round it was always me she wanted to hug and play with and she used to talked about me all the time when she went to nursery or went back to her mothers! which i think really pissed her off!
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reader, anonymous, writes (12 July 2009): She is NOT her mother, shes an innocent child in all of this nd needs her father and like you said, you cant deny your baby of his sister. Swallow your pride & really try and bond with her.
P.s if your baby and your partners little girl share the same father they are half-sisters & brothers Not Step. They Are Blood related so either way of u end this relationship u will end up seeing the little girl again. Your partner will want to see his son if you break up and may end up seeing his half sister & you may aswell.
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reader, anonymous, writes (12 July 2009): just because she's her mothers daughter she is NOT the same person as her mother, it is more than likely the more you keep treating her this way the more she'll look to her mother as a role model not you.you need to separate your feeling of her and her mother being the same person for the sake of your family.
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