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writes:Me and my boyfriend been together for 3 years. He treated me like a princess in the first 1.5 year.. then he got fed up with me constantly being demanding and rude. I also threatened him a lot .. later he found me lying to him over and over again and he said he couldn't trust me any more. Since then we fought all the time.. he is not showing affection to me any more but he obviously cares deeply for me because he always helps me, feels sad when I cry.. hug me when I fell down.. We're still kinda together but he said he does not love me any more. He sees me like a spoiled sister as he said.. He still likes touching some places on me.. like stomach.. arm.. hair.. and he calls me many times a day, and we hang out all the time. In fact we go to school together (graduating really soon) so we face each other every day.. and since we hang out all the time just the 2 of us so maybe thats the reason he still calls me all the time to hang out. now he said.. he thinks he's not in love with me any more.. because he doesn't have the desire to kiss me or show affection.. what can I do now? Is he really losing his love? Am i supposed to move on now? I'm very hurt because I'm so emotionally attached to him..
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reader, BeANicerGirl +, writes (27 May 2010):
BeANicerGirl is verified as being by the original poster of the questionis the situation as hopeless as it looks?? He still calls me all the time.. and still speaks to me in his cute voice sometimes (this is how we interact.. but not when he talks with his friends/family)
or is this a way he just tries to let me down gently? I really dunno what is going on in his mind... I can wait for him if he still has hope.. but if not.. I will get hurt in the end when he turns out with another girl? But if he claims to really have no feelings for me at all, then why does he still hang out with me when I'm bothering him non-stop during the dinner talking about our relationship ???
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reader, anonymous, writes (27 May 2010): Hello,
If you're demanding and mistreating him its only right he moves on. If u truly want to convince him that you're changing then you need to begin that process now. He obviously still cares for you, but as you stated he doesn't love you and wants to move on. It could be that he truly means it.
If it is over take time for you work on changing and learn from your errors. Seek why you behave demanding, and rude.
If he's willing to make amends and you truly love him then work on your issues.
Good luck
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reader, keepthelust33  +, writes (27 May 2010):
okay this is going to probly take all the you have but frist you must stop lieing to him !!! love is build on trust . if there is no trust then theres no love. two don't be mean to him . put him before you . think of his needs , feeling, and desires, before yours always . be understanding and forgiving towards him . If you love him as much as you clam then this is the path you must take or live with out him . try to remember men are strong outside but emotionaly inside there are as gental as a flower . to keep him you must show him you have changed and your willing to work verrry hard to keep him
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