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writes:Im curious for other peoples opinions on where I stand with my relationship wth my flatmate. Now before anyone goes off on a "you should never date your flatemate" thing - that's not what I'm asking. Im simply asking for opinions as I'm not 100% sure. Basically I live in a flat with 2 boys and 1 other girl. I get on really well with the girl - shes my best friend probably, and although get on with both boys, I am really close to one of them, Jamie.It started off that him and I were the first people to move in to the flat - we were in there on our own for about 3 days before the new flatmates arrived so naturally we bonded. We're all in uni halls btw, so that's why we're in this situation. Straight away we hit it off, but as friends. We're both history students, so we'd have conversations about the stuff we were looking forward to in our courses. Then it started getting quite playful - we'd slap eachother jokingly across the arms with teatowels, we'd flick water at eachother, we'd leave funny notes on eachothers doors, wind eachother other up etc. It was hilarious. But then it started getting a little bit more close. Like we'd sit and chat over a glass of wine most nights, or he'd show me how to cook something whilst standing pretty close. He'd show up at the bars he knew I was going to be at on certain nights, buy me drinks, he'd sit closer to me, lean closer when whispering to me, just little things that if were being done anywhere else I would take as serious flirting, but am not sure because we live in such close proximity to eachother if it is the same thing. Or maybe everything may seem exaggerated because we live together? He's very playful with me, very mischievious, but always very sweet and kind.It's contant as well. It doesn't stop. Today I was sitting at the table with him and felt his leg brush against mine, and then brush back and then it stopped exactly on my leg and stayed there. I looked at him and he just smiled a little. And the other night we - as in all the flat - were out drinking and my friend - the other girl in the flat was texting me telling me Jamie couldn't stop looking at me. Im so confused. Is he flirting with me? It doesnt make me feel uncomfortable at all, I just want to know where I stand.
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reader, anonymous, writes (5 March 2009): why don't you ask him? instead of trying to play the da vinci code on his non verbal stuff... would be easier...
Just say look i know we are history students and have similar backrounds, hobbies, social circle etc. so its no wonder that you keep meeting....however, get the feeling its more than that. would you like to go for a drink some time to discuss...
You haven't said how you feel...so can't advise more than that.
Hugs star.x.
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