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writes:Alright, this is a long one. There's this girl that has been in my youth group for a couple years, but I never really got to know her. I'm the only one from my school in my youth group....the others all go to a school about 15 minutes away. We can say her name is Emma. Then, mid-July this summer, we all went on a mission trip and we all became good friends. I really fell for Emma, and it seemed like she liked me too. She would always laugh at my jokes. There was one kid from another youth group that was kind of creeping on her, and at one point while everyone was walking and I was beside her she wrapped her arm around my waist and pulled me in tight to her so that he couldn't walk there.About a week later I was texting one of her friends who is also in our youth group. We'll call her Sara. Sara mentioned that I should come to their homecoming. At the time Sara was at Emma's house. Then she texted "Emma says she loves you and you're going to homecoming with her. I instantly said yes. A few days after that we got together as a group to go to the fair. A few people couldn't go, so it ended up as just me, Emma, Sara, and then some of their friends, who I've since become friends with. During that night Emma and I went on several rides as just the two of us, and at one point she exclaimed that she was cold and wrapped her arms around me. I won her a stuffed animal at one of the carnival games. At one point Emma, Sara and I were sitting on some bleachers and Sara asked Emma what she was doing and Emma said "Thinking." Sara asked what about and Emma said "Wouldn't it be weird if he knew?" I said it was alright, but then she asked if I wanted to go to homecoming with her, to which I immediately replied yes. The rest of the night went great, and we parted with a big hug and I felt great about the whole thing.A couple of weeks went by and we tried to set up a group outing but it didn't happen. Then school started. I feel a little out of the loop because the rest of our group are all in the same school and I'm not. I was still feeling confused about the whole situation. Whenever I texted Emma, she would always reply, but only with short messages, and she never tried to continue the conversation. I asked Sara for advice. I said I really like Emma, but I'm really uncomfortable with these things. I asked if I should just go for it. She said she wasn't sure because "Evan" has a thing for her. She didn't say how Emma felt.Evan also is in our youth group. We've all become friends in just 2 months. Evan goes to the same school as Emma, and knew her before I did. I have no clue how Emma feels about Evan. It feels like whenever we're both around her it's gotten a little awkward, and I don't really know why. She's very hard to read when Evan is around.....and ever since the fair she hasn't shown that type of affection.....physical contact and stuff.Last Thursday was Emma's 16 birthday, and her friend, "Allison", messaged me on Facebook. She said: "I don't know you but I know Emma thinks you are really funny and a great friend, so could you come to her surprise birthday party?" I went and it was really fun.....it just seemed once again like she was less responsive towards me when Evan was around.Today we had youth group, and still she just seemed to be ignoring me just a little bit. At one point Sara, Emma, and I were standing and Emma said to Sara that she needed to talk to her later. Getting the hint, I subtly walked away. I could easily tell it was something about me or Evan or both.Also, she stole Evan's phone at one point and wouldn't give it back. Evan asked who she was texted and she said "Mike". I'm not completely sure but I think Emma and Mike dated at one point. She said since it was from Evan's phone that somebody might be in love with him. It seems like Mike still likes Emma, and I'm pretty sure Emma doesn't like Mike anymore, but then again I'm completely baffled.I try to have conversations while texting. I text her first. But it always seems like she's just not interested in talking. I also remember her saying something where it seemed like Evan and her text back and forth.In fact, tonight I texted her "So when is X-town's homecoming anyway?"She replied "9". As in October 9th. Literally the least she could have possibly texted. I then said "Awesome, ours is the 1st." I didn't have high hopes as to a response, which was lucky because she texted back "Cool."I'm practically dying here. I've never had a girlfriend or even been on a date before. I have no idea what to do.Does she like me? Does she like Evan? Is she playing hard to get or does she not care about me anymore? Should I ask her if she wants to go out before homecoming? What do I do?My heart is literally in physical pain right now. I'm so confused. HELP!!! Please......
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reader, petina1  +, writes (12 December 2010):
 Shes definately gone cool on you. She has other interests and I'm afraid that she could be playing you all off against each other, she is spoilt for choice. I suggest you stop texting her because her responses are causing you great concern and you are expecting more from them. If you stop texting then she may suddenly text you if she is missing the texts, that way you will find out whether she is interested or not. You may just have to put this down to summer love and now it's over.
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reader, wonderland85 +, writes (12 December 2010):
Hey dude, its a tough one. some girls like to keep guys chasing them to make themselves feel good, others could just be confused. sounds like this one is surrounded by guys but dont allow yourself to be messed around or lead on! you have a few options, you could tell her straight how you feel about her which would definately clear things up a bit. Or you could try some tactics by backing off slightly so that she will realise she cant have you whenever she wants and that could work in your favour, girls like a challenge. If you're very brave you could just drag her away from the crowd and give her a kiss! What works for some guys may not for others but you could also act a bit flirty around other girls by making nice compliments on how they look or smell and see if this emma responds! i hope this helps bud!
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