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writes: I really dunno how can I explain this feeling am feeling right now , so I've been with my boyfriend since Nov. 2011. .. The first two months were magical by the meaning of the word -- he was so sweet , so romantic and passionate and he used to show great interest in me and do n say what I like he used to call me his whole life , his princess ..etc. Then by February it somehow started to fade or something like that and when I told him , he said that he was just stressed out because of his exams (he's in university) he told me to give him another chance and everything will be back to normal so I did but nothing really changed and he showed great carelessness and our relationship took the routine form . then a month ago I saw his E-mail and he was subscribed to a porn\dating website we had a big fight and he kept saying it wasn't his , but who else's would it be ?!!!!! It's just me and him using his E-mail so if he didn't subscribe then who would have ?! To be frank I insulted him a lot because I couldn't take the fact that he uses dating websites and shows me no caring at all , so I haven't heard from him since then and now am deadly missing him , every night ever since I just take my phone and type the text I wanna send him but then I delete after am done , I've had an emotional break down and I pretty much cry every night I love him so so VERY much and I wish if he feels the same and be honest and loyal to me -- I know it's very long but I really am desperate and need help so bad -- so I want to talk with him again but my pride won't just let me I mean it's been a month and he didn't even think once about me even though every night I do.. So Shall I get over the pride thingy and text him or shall I stay strong and let him start ?!! But btw every time we had a fight it was me who always say sorry even when am not wrong because it seems he has no problem staying away but for me it just kills me he's a guy I swear on heaven am willing to give up my life for and he knows that every time we fight I'll be crawling back to him:( :( :( am heartbroken no words can explain how much am hurt no mentioning that he made me feel like am not worth it or not good enough for him !!!
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reader, Anastasia  +, writes (20 May 2012):
 Hi,
First thing you need to understand is that he is a young man. And as a young man, he wants to explore. It is completely normal for a young man to watch porn and poke around dating websites. You need to accept that. You both are very young.
You have just created the biggest rift in your relationship by making him ashamed of what he is doing. Instead of making a huge stinky about it, you should have just asked him what the email was about in a non judgemental way. He just may have opened up to you and you would not have been speculating if he told the truth or not right now.
The only thing that you can do right now if you REALLY miss him and know that you can be comfortable and tolerate his exploring stuff....is yes to apologise for the outburst. Let him know that you did not mean to come across to judgemental and would like if he would share ANYTHING with you. Prepare yourself for anything to be just that.....anything. If you can tolerate and deal with that ...then make the first text.
But don't be accepting for 2 weeks and then go back to your old ways....because you'll just be here writing a letter again.
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