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anonymous
writes:My ex and I broke about a year ago we both had got into new relationships, and then both of us ended single again at the same time. We agreed to have a sexual relationship with each other with no strings attached, but I didn't have any time to fulfill his needs all the time, so I told him that he could find someone else, but he said he would just wait on me when I'm not busy or anything. Before we had this sexual relationship he use to ask people about me. Do you think my ex still have feelings for me?
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reader, PeterPan +, writes (18 May 2008):
 To anonymous: if your relationship is working, cool... great!! I just saying that in my experience I have yet to hear where there's a clear definition where both sides of the couple are on equal footing. I'm guessing, but it seems that you have a very open communication with your "partner"... again, that's great! Yours is the first I heard that's working... so, more power to ya!
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reader, anonymous, writes (18 May 2008): I have yet to hear of a relationship where both people were on equal ground ~ Peter Pan
I'm in such a relationship, Peter Pan. My friend is older than me. He actually lives with me part of the week. We spend time together as friends. We spend time apart. We have sex sometimes, but not to frequently. He has no intention of marrying me, I do not love him, but we care for each other. We're both in that period in life when we don't want a bother with the committment that a relationship would bring. Hey! It works for me.
Oh yea back to the question. You need to stop putting your attention on what your boyfriend wants. I can't read his mind and neither can you. You want sex, tell him, you want a relationship, tell him. If you want to know how he feels, ask him, then you'll have the options to make a decision about what you want.
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reader, PeterPan +, writes (18 May 2008):
Depends... what was he asking? Look, I see this "friends with benefits" relationship thing that most people find themselves in as "troubling". I have yet to hear of a relationship where both people were on equal ground... as in, one or the other is harboring secret desires to rekindle the old relationship in some way. If you're prepared for and accept this could possibly turn out that way, then keep going... but if you're in it just for the sex, you better be 100% sure that the old BF is thinking the same thing too.
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