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writes:I am 22 year old male and have a fair few 16 year old female friends. Now I have been told that this is stupid as they are all jail bait for relationships. Am I wrong if I like a 16 year old lass and would that be classed as being a pervert. I just get on well with lasses really better than lads and sick of people saying I shouldn't go out with anyone younger than 18 or 20. Please give me advice. Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (23 March 2008): Ah, you see, I am a 17 year old girl who has a crush on a 25 year old. Honestly, I'd rather just wait until I was 18 to date him, that way nothing can happen to either of us, however, I still hang out with him, and talk on the phone with him. Sure, we flirt, but that's about it. You can't help who you fancy/like/love, you can help how you act on your feelings though. This is just my opinion though.
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reader, anonymous, writes (16 July 2007): I think there is nothing wrong with it as long as you are ONLY friends with them. You can not date someone that much younger with you. That's all I think. Try to stay above 18 with the girls you date. That's all.
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reader, rachal  +, writes (13 June 2007):
 i'm 15 and i have an older friend who is 19, and he's hit on me a few times so i flirt back, i think that as long as you don't try to force her into doing something that she doesn't want to do then you should be fine. and it's only illegal if there's sex involved. but if you two like eachother then just keep it between the two of you and don't share it with the world. goodluck.:)
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reader, anonymous, writes (20 April 2007): it all depend on what you want from them really if your just friends having a laught then its ok but if you what more you will have to be carefull its not bad in the eyes of the law as they are 16 but to others it will be.
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reader, anonymous, writes (20 April 2007): If the problem is that you get on better with ladies than men, that doesn't really explain why you insist on going out with girls so much younger than yourself. The reason people tend to take a dim view of mixed-age relationships (especially when one member in that relationship is not yet adult aged) is the imbalance in power. You may not want to do something to harm your girlfriends, and you may not want to push them further than they're ready to go emotionally or physically, but the problem is you have a certain amount of authority as an adult that they might not be able to defy as kids (and teenagers ARE kids in many ways). They're barely aware of their own feelings and boundaries as it is, which is why they are generally "look but don't touch" until a certain age. The cliche you may be tempted to fall back on is the old "age is just a number" deal, but age does in a case like this tell you something about what stage someone is in. A 16 year old is a volatile mess of childlike emotions with only the seed of adult sensibility. If you don't want your ass to get embroiled in any kind of emotional or legal fiasco, you may want to limit yourself to the legal range.
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reader, anonymous, writes (20 April 2007): I very well understand your problem and honestly, you will most likely be looked down upon if you decide to pursue one of these younger ladies. But if those are your friends and you feel happy and comfortable with them I don't think you should give that up. Good friends are hard to come by
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