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female
age
30-35,
anonymous
writes:I just broke up with my boyfriend (not for the 1st time really, but the breakups have only ever lasted 2 days at the most) and I'm so ridiculously confused.Here goes: we've been together for 4 and a half years. Since I was 15, and he 18. I met him through mutual friends, and we've been together since. no breaks, small (not real in my opinion) breakups, no cheating, etc.) it's been a pretty solid relationshipHowever, that's not to say that I'm happy.For the past few months, we've (more like just me) been trying to plan a small vacation. I was really excited to go, since I've never been anywhere, and I found something really cheap in the caribbean. He was all for it, (after numerous arguments of him not being involved in the planning process enough) to go, until his mother disapproved of the place we were planning on staying. he cares so much about what his mom thinks, it kills me. His whole family is extremely well off, and snobby in my opinion. I don't like many of them (his family is huge). I recently had a huge falling out (although i was never really in) with his sister, whom he's not close with b.c of. I do however accept his family for his sake, and I try my best to get along with them. (they do not know how I feel about them) But anyways, we got into a fight because we were supposed to book the place for vacation tonight, and he was sitting there worrying so much about how his mom didn't like it. To put it short, I can't stand my mamas boy boyfriend (or ex I guess)I can't stand how selfish he is. Uh HELLO, i don't have much money, and I can't afford to go to expensive hotels that his mom suggested.But, this isn't all I want to say..I honestly love my boyfriend, but I don't agree with some of his morals, life-choices, etc. he's changed a lot (for the better imo) over the years, but not enough.He's unappreciative, totally sucks at romance, insecure, mamas boy, dramatic, selfish. He's a leo, and if any of you know one, you probably know what I mean.I just cannot deal with feeling like i put 100% into this relationship, and don't get enough back.I cook him dinner, I go to his (stupid) family parties, weddings, etc. B/c god forbid he actually goes without a date (he seriously gets crazy embarrassed when I don't go with him to things, as if my presence is completely necessary at a 2-year-olds birthday.) I talk to him about every problem in the relationship in order to build a better one, I work on the things in me that he doesn't like, I accept his silly taste in movies, games, life in general..I guess what I'm saying, is the boy drives me insane. the biggest reason why I'm thinking about permanently ending things is because I'm now getting serious stress/anxiety problems, which mostly revolve around him in some way. I feel like i cannot live my life this way, but I don't want to live it without him either.Please, don't tell me to talk things out with him, that's all we do is talk. I can't talk anymore. I'm the most honest person the guy has ever met. Yet, he has no problem lying straight to my face about getting text messages, or playing his stupid video games. (stupid little things)I just don't know what to do..
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reader, Red Green 0289 +, writes (25 March 2010):
There's NO WAY he's worth all this... move on.
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