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writes:rite ok im not sayin this to get attention or sympathy!..i was sexually assualted and attempted rape on me a few years back! by my ex bf..my new bf who i been with for almost two years wouldn dream of doin anythin to hurt me. but he started takin up a new fitness regime which always he has to take these tablests that are legal and safe to use but they higher his testosterone by about 3x or something!..now i feel awful for even thinkin this (but some ppl do do stuff that u didnt think were capable of)....so im gettin quite a bit anxious if say one day if he was like really really wantin sex when he had been drinkin or not and i didnt want it ,im so scared that wat has happened to me befpre it will happen again ?..i no he wouldnt but i thought that about the last one .im guessin im askin how do i go about it ,,should i say somethin ? or is it just stupid ?thanks
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reader, scarlett21 +, writes (12 March 2009):
scarlett21 is verified as being by the original poster of the question no i didnt get any therapy or anythink over it , i still have nitemares about it to this day ..but nevermind it happens...
thanks all very much for your advice :),il take it to your consideration :)
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reader, ArmyMedic +, writes (11 March 2009):
 Sorry we missed you out.
OK do you know what these tablets are called because there are no tablets I know that are legal that raise your testosterone. But I may be wrong (it happens from time to time!)
I think you are perfectly justified in talking to him about it, I take it he knows all about what happened in the past? Just make him aware of your concerns so he can and will understand if you get a little freaked out.
I also don't think an increase in testosterone will make him a potential rapist, if he has any morals at all, he will understand no means no, and if he loves you will never push you!
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reader, Tisha-1  +, writes (11 March 2009):
 Hi hon, sorry, your question seems to have been overlooked! I will try to answer as best I can here.
I think you've got trust issue due to the sexual assault by your ex, with is completely understandable.
I think you don't want to make the mistake of accusing your new guy of something he's not going to do, but you can't help the doubts from creeping in, correct?
Look, I don't know much about hormones and those kinds of things in fitness regimes. I do think that they can be very risky and have unwanted side effects.
"Roid-rage" is a real syndrome, from what I've heard, and obviously that's something to be concerned about, as well as becoming violent after drinking.
I think you're perfectly entitled to have a conversation with your guy, telling him that you were hurt so badly by your ex, that you just couldn't face going through something like that again. If I were you, I'd do some research on this supplement he's taking to make sure it IS legal and 100% safe (well, 99% safe, virtually everything has something that can go wrong). Talk to your own doctor, for example. And then tell your guy that you do get concerned when he drinks too much and that you are worried about side-effects from the supplements. Just do it very calmly, when you're both relaxed and not stressing about other things.
I hope he does realize how precious you are and that you deserve to be treated with tender loving care.
I hope this helps a little! And take good care of you, okay?
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reader, scarlett21 +, writes (11 March 2009):
scarlett21 is verified as being by the original poster of the questionanyone not goin to give me advice :( lol
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