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writes:Hi,my girlfriend broke up with me 2 months ago because she no longer loved me. We were together for 1 year. I loved her like no other girl, I was totally into her, although she didn't treat me as good as I did her...I decided never to contact her again because it would just hurt me so much. The thing is, I live in a smaller city (500,000 population) and I'm so scared to meet her at some place. It's going all in my head every time I'm in a shopping mall for example. I fear I will get depressions if I see her, because I know I still want her and still find her most attractive...
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reader, anonymous, writes (4 March 2008): Well let me just say, that is tough to deal with, and it's okay to feel bad about it! I know what it's like to fear to the death running into your ex - a sharp stabbing fear, you feel sick and weak... It will be difficult, especially in a small town, to calm that fear. The best news I think is that it won't last forever; it will fade over time. So keep that in mind, that there is light at the end of the tunnel.
But in the meantime, I would recommend trying new things to meet new people - a great distraction to ease your troubled mind about it all. Keep in mind that you probably are still very upset about the breakup, and those feelings need to be acknowledged and dealt with before you can start to not panic at the thought of seeing her.
Whatever you do, just make sure you channel how you feel, somehow - either with a close friend, or parent, or even just writing to yourself (I do this ALL the time!) to get it out. It really helps you understand how you're feeling and why, which ultimately leads to you feeling better about it all.
Hope this helps... just remember it will get better!
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reader, sheridan  +, writes (1 March 2008):
hi i know how you feel as im going though the same thing it is hard but try not to think about it cus it hurt more the more you think about it . i bumped into my ex 2 weeks ago and it was hard cus i just wanted to talk to her but but i think i did very well by carryin on doing my shopping just try and carry on if u do meet just carry on let her think ur over her it dos get better trust me if u want anymore advise private massege me i be happy to help ps take care of number one for now ok
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