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writes:I have been warned that it will hurt the first time I have sex by almost everyone I have spoken to.However, I am more curious for the time being, how much or whether it will hurt when I am "fingered" for the first time.Can any one give me any advice or first time experiences please? guys giving or girls receiving...?thanks v much Reply to this Question
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reader, shayshay115  +, writes (25 May 2010):
its not bad, its a different type of pain. The first time won't be amazingly pleasurable like we think it will be. Its not all its juiced up to be like "making love." It maybe a little awkward for you depending on how comfertable you are with that person and your own body... Its a good type of pain tho, and you can't really take anyones advice or understand the way it feels until you do it yourself. Make sure your responsible, and smart and remember that everyone is different, we were all nervous our first time. and NO ONE is ever ready for it. No one can prepare you for something you havent experienced!
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reader, anonymous, writes (25 June 2008): i'm still a virgin afraid of having sex for now and i was afraid of getting fingered too. The key is getting to know your body a little better. Try and make yourself get used to your fingers being around clit, tease yourself. When that day comes for your partner to do it you'll feel comfortable. Trust me it feels good in the end.
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 June 2008): thankyou everyone you made me feel better
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reader, lushlass93 +, writes (8 June 2008):
 when i was first fingered it didnt hurt bit then he went to far up and it did i my cherry was popped and it hurt but not alot everyone is diffrent and it can hurt alot or only a bit you cane bleed that day or the day after it depends how far your patener goes up
good luck xxxxx
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 June 2008): A thin membrane, the hymen guards the entrance of the vagina,(it allows the escape of mentstrual fluid); the thickness and stifness varies from woman to woman; often it is ruptured by activities such as gymnastics, horseriding, cycling or even the use of tampons. However, even if in tact, it is rarely painfull during first penetration or "fingering" as you mentioned.
I do suggest you take it easy, have a lubricant handy. Discuss this with your boyfriend,have him prepared not to be overkeen and in a hurry.. no rush, the secret is to "go Slow"....if it hurts stop and try again...
I want to urge you to ensure that when you do decide to do this, make it special; a day that you will be able to remember with good and fond memories; there is no second "hymen"!
Good luck, enjoy and remember!
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 June 2008): The first time is a little painful, but you get over the pain quickly. You may be a little sore after for a couple hours, but nothing unbearable.
Don't worry about being scared or nervous, we all were our first time. Just relax, and it'll be fine. It only gets better with time.
Just be safe!
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reader, anonymous, writes (7 June 2008): It depends when you pop your cherry (a thin layer of skin inside your vagina)
i popped mine being fingered for the 1st time.
it hurt abit but it wasnt unbearable. i bled abit but onli for about an hour or so and not enuf to need to used a sanitry towel. it stung i think is the way to describe it.
You may be diffrent. my first time havin sex didnt hurt. but you may pop your cherry then. one of my friends popped hers about the 3rd time she had sex.
everyones diffrent.
Have a good first time i hope. Only When Your Ready. & use a Condom!!!1!!!
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reader, anonymous, writes (7 June 2008): It depends on when your cherry pops. (a thin Layer Of Skin Inside Your Vagina..( It Will Make You Bleed But Only For Maybe An Hour And Not Alot It Hurts when You Walk When You Pop Your Cherry, but Everyone Is Diffrent When they do.
I poped My cherry when i was first fingered. My first time having sex didnt hurt at all.
yet my friend didnt pop her cherry being fingered or having sex for the 1st time. It wasnt untill about the 3rd time she had sex she poped her cherry.
it hurts abit but not unbearable pain.
i hope you have a good first time..:)
And use a condom.
xx
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reader, anonymous, writes (7 June 2008): i believed fingering was a lillte painful,but once you break through that tiny barrrier of pain,the pleasure will come,i myself didn't fiind intercourse painful...i didn't even blled which some gals do on their first time(so don't worry).relax,everyone goes through this worry-it feels better when your relaxed.
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