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writes:I am 24 and 5 months pregnant,i have dated my boyfriend for 5 years.on our 3rd year together he accused me of sleeping with his friend, he would not listen and he did not believe me when i told him that we did not have sex. then last year he accused me of sleeping with his landlord and i decided to break u with him and he was getting abusive and he did not believe me, i discovered that i was pregnant and we got back together but he still refuse for to come to his place. i asked him to move out so we can atleast spend time together , and he has since not moved out. he used to tell me that his first baby will be a baby boy and i thought it was just wishfull thinking.....but i went for my OB yesterday and the confirmed that i am carring a baby girl and he said it is not his. he even said he will have to do pertanity tests when that baby is born. the baby is his , i have not been with any man since i met him, and i told him we can do the tests when the baby is born. this morning i found a girl's picture on his phone and he has been hiding his phone from me for months now. he would leave it at his place when he comes to see me. i am stressed , i need help so that my baby is not harmed in the process. i am embarrased to talk to my friends or family as they think we have a pefect relationship and they do not know what i am going through. please help me for my baby's sake.i gave my life to this guy and now i feel lost
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reader, anonymous, writes (20 April 2008): Theres no doubt about this you should leave him for yours and your babys sake....if e is still abusive when the baby is born there is nothing stopping him from abusing her too.Dont worry about what your friends and family think its your life and you shouldn't stay unhappy for them.Good Luck and Congrats xx
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reader, daniellexxxx  +, writes (18 April 2008):
 Well for your babys sake leave him he sounds like hes controlling you in a way you cant see. You baby will be born and the arguments will get worse and thats not good for a little girl to be round, Tell him you want a break cause your sick of his doubts and for him to know where his priorities lie and when the babys born and you prove it's his, see how he reacts he need to do some groveling if your going to carry on your relation ship.
Good luck.
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reader, Emilysanswers +, writes (18 April 2008):
Kick him out. Put a bolt on the door so he cannot get back in.
Then call one of your friends and tell them what has happened. You cannot hide behind pride and there is no shame on you. It is his problem.
Ignore him for now and get your friends and family to help you through your pregnancy and childbirth. You have to think about yourself.
Once the baby is born you can get a DNA test to prove it is his and then make him provide for the baby.
You are better off without this man though. He is paranoid and abusive. He is not the right man to have a child around.
Good Luck!! xx
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