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writes:Hiya everyone I posted a question a few days ago saying I think I could be pregnant by my fwb I have today just done a pregnancy test and it has came back positive I have done three diffrent brand tests how do I tell my fwb I'm terrified I'm 25 and he is 35 he has a son and so do I what do I do thank you
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reader, anonymous, writes (26 September 2011): First of all realize that this is your body and although it takes two, it's ultimately your decision to bring this child into the world. I will be honest if you don't feel comfortable with telling him, it's because you have some reservations about whether he will ultimately be there, support your decision there could be several reasons you're hesitant about telling him (just think about it). But do realize he does have the right to say he doesn't want another child, so make up your mind. If you want to have this child and can finacially and emotionally support it, do it! But if you can't and know its going to be a struggle you might want to consider the alternative, because believe me he can leave at any moment and will! So just make sure you are in a position to handle this if you so choose to have the child.
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reader, serenity80 +, writes (20 September 2011):
I guess you can either have an abortion, and not tell him. Or you can go through with the pregnancy and do tell him.
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reader, chickpea2011  +, writes (20 September 2011):
 Hi,
Sorry that you are feeling this way. Don't get scared, everything will be ok. Just know that this is not your fault. You are both adults, knew what you were doing, and now both of you are responsible for this pregnancy.
Don't wait another day, talk to him as soon as you can. He should not, and cannot be angry at you, nor blame you for this. Be strong, you shouldn't be stressing alone. This is his reaponsiblity too.
Good luck
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reader, anonymous, writes (19 September 2011): Just tell him hun. He may not take it very well but he has half the responsibility for the child. You don't need a guy to help you. Single women bring up their children great. There are some tough times but there are some fantastic times too. I had my daughter when I was 17. It was my choice that I didn't want the father in either of our lives. Now I'm 21, my daughter is happy and asks for nothing and I wouldn't change a thing. Be brave and just tell him, you may be surprised how he reacts to the news. But tell him, if he wants nothing to do with you or the child, be strong. You can do it with the help of your family and friends. And when your baby comes into the world, you'll forget about all those bad times :)
Best of luck to you
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reader, anonymous, writes (19 September 2011): You say he has a son but no g/f or wife. So that is good. All you can do is be honest. Invite him over and talk to him face to face. Be thinking what your plan is before hand, and if you don't know then be honest that you don't know what you're going to do. I also think you should tell him first, before anyone else if possible, so he doesn't hear it from somewhere else.
If he is a rational person then hopefully he will see that these things happen. He may be angry but hopefully not overly angry, it does take two. It is too late to take back the deed, now you must decide what to do about the baby.
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