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writes:Hi everyone. My partner and I were thrilled to find out we are expecting a baby, after we had tried for quite a long time. I am now 15 weeks, and in the second trimester, and although I know that the risk of miscarriage is less likely now I cant get over this fear. I so desperatly want this baby, and the thought of anything happening to it is just unbearable. I have a scan in two weeks, and instead of being excited I am anxious and nervous. My partner cant understand why I cant just be happy, and I am, just scared. To make matters worse, my friend keeps telling me horror stories of people who had late miscarriages, which isnt helping. I know I should be grateful that Im young, healthy and all seems ok, and our last scan was very reassuring, I just fear that it will all be snatched away from me at any moment. Until this baby is in my arms I feel I cant stop worrying. Anyone have any advice on how to manage this sort of anxiety? Reply to this Question
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reader, Honeypie  +, writes (15 May 2015):
 If someone brings up a horror story about miscarriages, tell them to stop OR walk away. YOU don't have to sit there and listen to that crap.
A miscarriage is a scary thing, but there are PLENTY of things to worry about.... if you want that standpoint.
Worrying will NOT prevent a "bad" thing from happening. But it CAN put you AND baby at risk, so it SHOULD be your goal to try and lower your stress levels and thus your cortisol levels.
Stress Solutions for Pregnant Moms: How Breaking Free From Stress Can Boost Your Baby’s Potential by Susan Andrews, PhD - might help.
Or find a baby yoga class/prenatal yoga class. It is GOOD for you and good for baby.
Find books or maybe even a youTube video with relaxation techniques.
Put on some relaxing music and curl up with a book from time to time. When the weather is nice, go have a picnic outside - get a little vitamin D from the sun.
Or take some pregnancy swimming class. Some people feel clam in water.
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reader, k.b.williams +, writes (15 May 2015):
Hi there.I can only imagine how you may be feeling whilst undergoing such a life changing event.It's important to feel blessed and keep the faith that this baby will be in your arms a lot sooner than you may think. The minute you switch off and begin to enjoy your pregnancy is when you can start to enjoy and come to terms with the fact that you are now a family and you're bringing something so precious into the world.Your thoughts are very powerful and it's important to not be ruled by them. I know all too well how damaging they can be. So as hard as It may be, try to breathe, relax and channel your mindset to ruling out these negatives.It's bad energy for both you and your baby and that's the last thing you need whilst your hormones are already flying all over the place!Try to enjoy it and congratulations :) x
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reader, anonymous, writes (15 May 2015): join an antenatal class and try to settle into being a new mum. anxiety is natural but the scan should help reassure you.is it twins??
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