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writes:A year ago I met my boyfriend, we got to know each other for two months he lives 3hours away. When we finally met up we had so much chemistry and smiles it’s still like that. We’ve been official for a year now and I just found out I’m pregnant. And he’s excited too but he lies that he’s asleep and goes out and danced like grinds with other women I told him that bothered me and I forgave him but I just found out I’m pregn this Monday officially and this Saturday he goes behind my back again and I see pictures again of him really close to another female. It hurts me so much. Plus I know how he is, the first night we went out he tried for more and I said no, so I’m the long run he liked that I was different and took me serious. But I know how he was before me and even with me what he’s about when he wants something he goes for it. He knows it hurts me and still did it again even after we just found out the baby news. I’m worried a man who doesn’t respect me and continues with that behavior just isn’t ready for something serious, and i know a baby is just going to complicate things a baby will not make a man act right. Or keep him around I feel hurt and confused, do I just keep him as far away from me and when the baby comes he can have his daddy rights if he wants I just feel like I need to be away from him he just hurts me what should I do I love him I really do but I need to see the big picture Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (14 August 2018): You need to get away from him!! Imagine how much worse he will make you feel when you’re heavily pregnant. Be strong!!
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reader, anonymous, writes (14 August 2018): You obviously have to leave the guy. He's excited about the baby, that you can only assume; but it he apparently wasn't expecting to be a father within a year of meeting you.
There isn't much more advice to be given but to prepare to be a single-mom, initiate the process to get child-support; and try to workout a reasonable visitation-schedule, so he can bond with the child. That is, if he really wants to.
You got pregnant, which wasn't planned. You're going to need help, and he's the biological-father. So you can make it easier on yourself not to cause unnecessary drama. You didn't take precautions to avoid pregnancy; so this is the situation you find yourself in. You can demonize him for being a cheat; but you trusted him too much when you had unprotected-sex.
Grit your teeth and tolerate him only when it's necessary; that being when he wants to see his child. Otherwise; you don't have to have anything to do with him.
To be honest, I don't think you'll be seeing that much of him after the baby is born. So you will have to curb your feelings for him. He cheats on you, and he doesn't seem to love you back. Prepare for the worse; and just do the best you can for yourself and your baby.
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