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writes:I am pregnant and he doesn't believe me... What should I do...? He thinks that I've cheated on him and I havent. I don't know what to do. He was supposed to go to the doctors with me today and he never even called me. I called him a million times and he didn't answer my calls. I even left messages on his fone and no answer. He sent me an email saying f*** me and the boy that I'm with but I'm not with anybody but him what do I do? Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (15 February 2008): You need to decide whether or not you want to bring the baby up on your own. A DNA test is a good idea because if you do decide to go ahead with the pregnancy on your own, he will need to pay child maintenance later. Also, a DNA test will establish whether he really is doubting you or whether he is running scared and avoiding responsibility. You are quite young - is he a similar age to you? He sounds immature. He really needs to talk to you about this. Can someone get hold of him and arrange a meeting to try and discuss it all. I would really recommend that you speak to a professional person about all your options. It must be very upsetting for you. Try to keep as calm as possible and get support from family and friends and your GP. Take care xx
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reader, loveee  +, writes (15 February 2008):
 heya . i think he is scared any one would be im not sure how old you are babe but i think you need to give him a little bit of space to get used to the fact that in the future he may possibly be a dad. He still may want to go clubbing and having a laught with his mates. think about why he is acting like this, and what you would do if the shoe was on the other foot. Are you ready for a baby and consider the facts maybe do some reseach on the whole situation.but rember this is a life you have inside you your distion will affect your baby boy or girl aswell. xx keep me posted on what you deside to do and how things go xx
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reader, anonymous, writes (14 February 2008): Tell him that you are willing to go and get a DNA test done to prove that the child is yours. And if that fails, just walk away from that loser then! He obviously isn't man enough to accept responsiblilty of a child.
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reader, anonymous, writes (14 February 2008): Tell him that you are willing to go and get a DNA test done to prove that the child is yours.
And if that fails, just walk away from that loser then! He obviously isn't man enough to accept responsiblilty of a child.
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reader, chlez83  +, writes (14 February 2008):
Your bf is just being childish and scared chicken.If you are 100% sure you aren't/haven't cheat(ed/ing) on him don't worry so much.However,if he continues treating you that way,you may need to involve other people like parents or you can even consult a lawyer if you wana take things really serious.
Good Luck.
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reader, Collaroy  +, writes (14 February 2008):
 Hi,
I feel sorry for you. But it looks like he is trying to get as far away from his responsibilities as possible.
You know its bull and he knows its bull, it's just a cowardly excuse to get out of it.
The best thing to do is get family members involved , especially his parents ( they will be grandparents after all and if they have any decency they will try and get him to own up ).
But you also have to make a choice, if he eventually owns up do you want a relationship with him? If he is behaving like this now he could turn abusive in future.
First though, a simple paternity test will show that he's the father and you will be able to apply for child support from this rat.
Good luck.
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reader, brooke5426 +, writes (14 February 2008):
 hey babe, i'm sorry to say this but i dont think he believes you are with someone else. i think he is looking for an excuse to leave and not face his responsibility. he knows you're pregnant, he knows you didnt cheat, he knows you are not with anyone else. he's just being immature and stupid and looking for an easy way out.
Don't waste your time trying to convince him that your not with anyone else - he knows you're not so its a waste of both your time - and concentrate on getting him to talk to you about the baby and what you are going to do. He needs to know at the very least he is going to have to pay child support. Maybe he just needs a bit of time to get used to the idea and get over the shock but dont let him abuse you and if he really needs proof you are pregnant, do a home pregnancy test and show him it.
all the best and keep us updated with how you're getting on
Brooke
xx
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reader, Laura1318  +, writes (14 February 2008):
 You will have to decide if you want the baby or not.Perhaps you should talk to your parents and discuss with them .Do not do anything rash,keep calm.
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