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writes: Hi cupid,Please help me , i am 39 and started seeing a guy who is 26 .Fist of all i had a problem with the age gap ,but now ive accepted it ,and just enjoy what we have ..Afetr a few weeks of seeing each other he then tells me he is in love , with me ..which i was shocked .When we went out he kept saying every guy looks at you ...you are stunning for your age , and he didnt like it bcos they should respect that i am with him ..I then discovered he had a green eyed monster coming out , not nasty , but insecure i would say..Trouble is he lives an hour and half drive from me ..And has now after a week saying his dying love for me ..has gone a little cold , and questioning what i do? when im not with him in the week ...He says i have too many male friends , which i do have ,but are just friends , whic he has never met ...what am i doing wrong , as i dont seem to be able to keep relationships ? and why is he like this , in such a small time of nowing each other , which is 2 months . please help gratefully yours blondie xx
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reader, Devil's Advocate +, writes (1 March 2005):
 Well Blondie, there is quite a gap in your ages which shouldn't make a difference if you are happy together.You need to decide if you really want to be with him and if you do, reassure him that he is your only interest, he does sound insecure but is not insurmountable. Bear in mind though that due to his age, he is likely to be less settled in what he wants than you and it sounds like he wears his heart on his sleeve.
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reader, Rebecca Batchelor +, writes (28 February 2005):
 He does sound very insecure and if you want to stay with this guy, it would mean you having to reassure him constantly. If you do love him, perhaps you will want to do this. He needs to realise that you are only interested in him and no one else and it won't be easy convincing him of that as you live quite far apart.It can be done if you want to work at building his confidence by letting him know what you are up to and telling him frequently how you feel for him and that you miss him when you are apart.Perhaps something has happened to him in his past to make him this way. It could be an idea for him to have counselling to unravel his worries.It is up to you whether you wish to stand by him. Perhaps you could also go for counselling if you feel that relationships also haven't worked for you.I do hope this helps.
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