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writes:My girlfriend keeps saying, "I am not worthy of you," and though that seems like a backhanded compliment of sorts, every time she says it, it sets off a series of alarms in the back of my head. I know that I heard about this from some relationship advice pamphlet I read, but I can't remember if it had any significance or not, and I was hoping you could help.Background: This is my first relationship but not hers, and as far as I can tell, things are going well. We enjoy each-other's company and can make each-other laugh. It has been going on for about three months. Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (26 January 2007): my girlfriend said this to me for 5 yrs, found out she was cheating on me and had a drug problem, people that usualy say this have something to hide, I hope iam wrong, force the issue and find out why this is being said. if they wont tell you then move on.
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reader, anonymous, writes (23 January 2007): My boyfriend kept saying that over and over. Things were going perfect (i thought) then i got a message saying he was never going to be good enough 4 me, saying i was too good for him. (This was only yesterday btw) Talking to his friends, i found he has perviously suffered from depression...but i still cant help but feel his hiding something. All i can suggest is try tell her shes perfect etc. Although no matter how many times i said that it made no difference.
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reader, anonymous, writes (23 January 2007): Personally, and only personally, I am very weary of people who say this in a relationship, especially if they say it a lot.
First, it shows the person has low self-esteem that can cause all sorts of relationship issues and, second, it can be an indication that they are guilty of something.
People who are obsessed with the thoughts and ideas that they are not worthy of being with another person rarely are; they create a self-fulfilling prophecy that eventually eats away and destroys a relationship. Just my opinion :)
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