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30-35,
anonymous
writes:Hi i have been with my bf 3 months now and i reeeeeli like him were quite close and passionate wen we see eachother! he's the type of guy thats almost too good to be true! he is really busy with uni work so we hardly see eachother maybe 1ce a week if were lucky! but we ALWAYS have sex wen we see eachother! not that im complaining coz i reli enjoy it but sumtimes i feel as tho he sees me more good for sex than a proper gf! im sure he does like me! and im hoping im just being paranoid! we text everyday but less when he stays at his "mates" to "study" which i dont mind but his mate has a sister the same age as him! i cant help but feel jealous but i dont wanna say to him how i feel about this! and it was just the week there he stayed at his mates and last nyt wen i stayed over there was no sex! but we both went for lunch today which he treated me to :) so i guess im saying am i being too paranoid? im sure i trust him but again it just seems too good to be true! sorry for rambling!
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reader, Miamine +, writes (9 November 2011):
 Babes, if we supported you in your paranoia then we wouldn't be helping you or giving good advice. We are not here to tell you what you want to hear.You have jealousy issues and that is your problem. You will be jealous of him, and jealous of other women for no reason. You will be jealous if you start a relationship with someone else.You need to tackle your jealousy. If someone hurt you before, then they were wrong, not you. There is nothing wrong with you, you just had hurtful people in your past. If you keep accusing a man of doing something wrong, he will leave you, because you don't respect or trust him.You need to see how wonderful you are. You need to work on loving yourself and raising your self-esteem. Your letting your past rule your life, and that is not fair.If you don't like the fact that your relationship is all sex, then ask the guy to take you out, or take him out yourself. At your age, you and your guy should be going out dancing, or to the park, or the cinema, at least once a week.This guy has given you no reason not to trust him. You cannot be worried every time a woman is near him. If he's a nice guy, then tell him about your fears and ask for his reassurance.Don't push him away because of what someone else in the past has done. Don't you deserve happiness. Why would he want anyone else when he has you? Learn to love yourself a little bit more and then maybe you might believe that a man could love you and want only you.
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reader, anonymous, writes (9 November 2011): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionok! iamheretohelpyou! while i apreciate your view! a bit harsh! im paranoid because i've been cheated on before and i guess im scared that because im getting so close something bad will happen! it always has! im trying not to be negative but i posted on here for maybe a little support! i know im maybe overreacting! and i was staying at his when we didnt have sex!
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reader, anonymous, writes (9 November 2011): Would you cheat in the same situation? If not,then why have you thought he might. She might not fancy him.
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reader, aunt honesty  +, writes (9 November 2011):
 Yes you are being to paranoid. Just because you never had sex one time meeting up does not make him a cheat. There is lots more to a relationship than sex that is just a part of it. So his mate has a sister the same age as him doesn't mean that he is going to jump in to bed with her, am sure he has more respect for his mate than that. You need to trust him and let this go or else you will lose him.
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