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writes: I'm still a virgin but my bf really wants to have sex with me. I'm not ready but I do love him so last night I let him talk me into having sex between my boobs (boy is that messy). Will a guy be happy with something like that or is he just going to want more? He seemed happy with it. My friend says I was dumb to do it. Should I have waited?
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reader, anonymous, writes (19 June 2008): Thanks for the advice. I don't mind what we did and I want to do it again. I might even try oral sex but I don't want to risk getting pregnant so I think I will wait on sex for awile longer.
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reader, happytochat  +, writes (17 June 2008):
You're so young darling, you shouldn't have to be making big decisions like this. Thats why its illegal to be having sex at your age.
I cant say whether or not it was right of you to let him do what he did. The more important thing to think about is are you ok with it? How did it make you feel ? Did you feel guilty, violated or ashamed after? If so then dont let him do it again and dont go any further as you are not ready.
I know your love your bf and thats great, if he is WORTHY of your love then he will wait for YOU. Sex does not equal love. Nor does love equal sex. You dont have to have sex when there is love involved.
I cant say whether or not he will be happy with just having that. He may be, he may not. But it doesnt matter, you should be thinking about what YOU WANT. Do you want a sexual relationship? it sounds to me like you dont. I think it might be an idea to leave this relationship as you dont sound like you want it and i dont think you are ready- your only 13-15 years of age. Thats such a young age to have to deal with the emotional side of sex.
Try talking to a trusted adult such as yoour mum, aunty, older sister, teacher or a counsellor at your school.
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reader, Tremor +, writes (17 June 2008):
 Don't ever do anything you aren't comfortable with.
If you were comfortable with letting your boyfriend have sex between your boobs, then fine, but don't ever let him talk you into doing something that you don't want to. And even if you've done it before, it doesn't mean you have to do it again.
Just because you love him doesn't mean you have to bow to his every whim - if he loves you back he will be willing to wait for you until you are ready.
Should you have waited? I can't say. That's for you to decide, not your boyfriend, or your friend, or us Aunts. But a good indicator is regret - if you regret doing it, then you most likely weren't ready for it.
Good luck to you.
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