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writes:Help, i just married a few weeks ago, and sex is so boring. we are both in our 50's and i think my sex drive is higher than his. I have tried dressing up - he isn't interested. Sex was ok before marriage but now its going down the pan and i am trying hard to keep it going. I did expect him to jump on me on our honeymoon but i felt i had to wind him up to get anything out of him. We are no spring chicks but i only feel about 25! We are bringing up two teenage boys (13 and 15) one each from previous relationships, so time alone is hard, (pardon the pun! - it aint hard much, honestly). If it wasn't for my sense of humour, i would of gone under long ago. We do get to spend some time alone before the lads come out of school, but he wants to do other things. Why can't he 'do' me??? He was married for a long time (20) to someone 18 years younger than him and i think he is drained! Please help, what shall i do? I fancy the pants off him all the time and crave his body like mad! help is needed.
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reader, anonymous, writes (2 May 2007): Hmmmm, there are so many unanswered questions running through my mind when I read your story. You didn't say how long ago, his last marriage ended. Could he be depressed?.....It could be that he's having residual concerns that his new marriage will end up the same. Also, men go through their own form of "Menopause" and sometimes, depression is part of it. Which might explain the zap in his sex drive. Also, let's not rule out other health issues. Is he on blood pressure pills? Those can also zap a man's libido. So perhaps a physical exam is in order to make sure he's in tip top condition. I do sympathize with you though my dear, I am in my late 40's and my b/f is 51 and we have the same problem, except we're not married. I always want sex more often than he does and I have come to determine that there really are some men with lower sex drives. Hard to belive (no pun intended)...My first husband had a high sex drive, but it was me that was bored to death (not enough chemistry). If all these other things are ruled out, then talk to him about how your feeling. Maybe he'll be able to kick it up a notch or two. I wish you the best.
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