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writes: ************ JEALOUSY **************I am jealous to do with my partner's sexual past. She is 15 yrs older. I was a virgin and hadn't even kissed a girl! She had been married for 6 yrs (still has ex's surname and has a child-whom I adore) and had other long relationships. I want to be the best sex she has ever had. When I thnk about me not being the best, or about her doing it with other guys, I do compulsions. Other things to consider are:- she has lied to me many times. She lied to me for six months about ever kissing her "best friend" (a guy). After meeting him, I suspected somethin (he kept touching her nose) - but she denied it as she had several times before. She admitted a week later that she was in a relationship with him for a year!- she told me about an encounter she had with a guy who she thought to be her "soulmate". She still values this moment.- she has admitted that she has been with conventionally better looking people than me.- she admited she used to do it more frequently with other guys.- after I lost my virginity she said "its been a long time".I know I am wrong, and none of it is her fault (apart from lying maybe), but please try to understand I don't know what its like to have more than one relationship, or what memories and significance you have for a person after a breakup. The fact that you have had more than one means that there is possible comparison - either romantically or sexually - whether you ignore it or not. And so there is a best romantically, and a best sexually. Surely those who disagree with this are just the people who1. don't think about it, or2. have forgotten what it was like to be with someone else.I don't think I am the best sex she has ever had.Now I am totally lost with what significance I have in her life and to her. I believe that the times we have had together are special to her. I just don't think that they are as special to her as they are to me. They define my life.Thanks for reading.
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reader, MINAT  +, writes (10 December 2008):
first you need to know that there is no love without believe and jealous kills.if you dont trust her you really dont love her,andif you are jealous it means there is no smoke without fire.you need to ask yourself first as to what really the cause that jelousy.One od the hardest truth is most of the relationships dont last forever they were not designed to stant all the chaleenges thrown at them.it is not wise to squees yourself where you dont belong.time is what alway not in our side,so dont waiste time in the situation whereby you will end up being in a triangular situation.There are many fish in the sea so what are you waiting for.you deserve happiness and freedom like anyone else.YOU ARE AN EMOTIONALFOOTBALLER TO KICK THE BALL AROUND.
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