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reader, MummaMia25  +, writes (13 April 2010):
 One of the main things for a relationship to survive is have trust....have you ever heard the saying " You can't have a relationship, without any trust!"...im afraid this is very true!Not all men are the same and you cannot tar them all with the same brush. I understand how you feel as having been cheated on myself i know the pain and hurt it has on you but has he given you any reason to doubt him or are all these issues of trust from in your head...i dont know what to sudjest about your ex giving you another chance...maybe write him a letter or email explaining why you have these doubts and feel the way you do...and give him time to read it over and think....i hope this helps x
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 August 2009): tell him that if he really loves you, he should give you another chance to prove that you are different then if he does, then trust him and even if u dont just make him feel like u trust himdont ask questions and avoid problems n troubles with himif it comes to me i would let him go because if he really loves you then he would do him best to help u trust himgood luck xoxo
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reader, anonymous, writes (27 April 2008): omg i had the same problem lol if u love him as much as you say and he loves you as much as you say then i say you are are mde for each other you both sound like good enouth people to make it work :D lol
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reader, anonymous, writes (23 November 2007): well i learned that that feelin u have thats telling u not to trust him is right....dont do it untill he can prove u can trust him...theres somethin thats telling u not to and u have to find out ..
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reader, anonymous, writes (15 October 2007): hi i was with my boyfriend for 2 and half years and we broke up because my paranoia got the better of us. 6 months later i meet someone new and feel loved for being me with out all the paranoia now my ex wants me back practically beggin me and all i can say is that after he finished with me and didnt give me a chance i can now tell him F**k Off with out it hurting and in time it will heal. XX
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reader, anonymous, writes (18 September 2006): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThanks to everyone for their help on this one however, after I met up with him he then dissapeared and refused to return my calls so I gave up. This was a couple of months ago and Ive now found someone who knows how to treat people with respect and even though we are taking things slow everything is going really well.
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reader, anonymous, writes (17 September 2006): sometimes when you've had bad experience's its hard to leave the past behind but people change and how are you truelly going to move on with your life if you can't let go so i say tell this guy that you want to be friends and if it's meant to be you'll soon get back together trust me i speak from experience
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reader, anonymous, writes (3 August 2006): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionHi! Id just like to thank everyone for their help especially Astrid. I went to meet him today and lets just say it started with him asking me for a hug and ended with him asking me for a kiss and if he could take me out in a couple of weeks. Thanks so much! Luv N Hugs
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reader, Astrid  +, writes (2 August 2006):
 Of course go and relax you're to do it all right, c'on you can do it and please do not try to kiss him oh to get off unless he asks you, he may feel stress, good luck and love yourself more you're wonderful and special this is a temporary situation you'll soon be ok
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reader, anonymous, writes (1 August 2006): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionOk quick update. He's now told me he may change his mind in a week or so coz he does still love me and he keeps asking me to go and meet him though he says it is just to say goodbye with a hug however I keep putting him off as I dont think I can go through that now we've split and I know I will get upset and try and beg him to take me back which could ruin everything if he is to change his mind on his own! What should I do?
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reader, anonymous, writes (31 July 2006): Use his own logic to work for you. He won't take you back because he's tried that in the past and it didn't work, right? Well, tell him that you don't trust him to not cheat because he has in the past. Then gracefully be done with him. He doesn't treat you well. End of story.
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reader, Astrid +, writes (31 July 2006):
You shoud apologise and be just be friends maybe that would leave an open door for something else in the future good luck!!!!
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reader, anonymous, writes (31 July 2006): Change takes a long time - usually a long time of being single and getting some perspective on one's past behaviour. To be blunt, there isn't some quick solution to this problem. If he's made up his mind, your recourse is either to respect that wish and
a) spend some time on self-improvement, and maybe meet up with him again at some later date or
b) try and learn from this incident and after a short break, look into dating someone else - getting a fresh start as it were.
Option b is the better choice, by the way. There is no guarantee that he will ever come around again.
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