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writes:Hello everyone. I am due to leave in Sept for further studies from my home country, for the next two years, at least. The problem I'm facing is concerned with my feelings for a girl. I have known her for a year now, and I have developed deep feelings for her. I know not how to say it to her, let alone telling her, I don't even know if I should! She is a really devout Christian (protestant) and she believes in finding the right one when she's independent (right now she isn't as she is supported by her parents). I have tried in many many ways over the past months to hint that I like her very very much... and it just pains me a lot that I can't tell her how I feel about her. I asked one of her closest friends about this and she thinks that I should tell her after two years about how I feel. But what if she's found another? What if I miss my chance? I have had a really bad experience in the past. She left me for another guy and I came to know about it for 6 months... so you see I really don't want to lose the girl I like now because I know exactly what I want in my girl, and I cannot think of another one who'd be better for me. I really need your help on this. Should I tell her or not? What if it ruins our friendship? What if she says no now and i lose the chance of telling her later? Argh! this is so difficult! I don't want to lose her at any cost. Is there any indirect way to tell her? How can I share my feelings with her? She tends to turn her nose away at romantic things or when love comes into picture. I am willing to wait it out for her, till she's ready. How long it doesn't matter. Please just tell me a way to convey my feelings to her. If she says no, i'll lose her friendship, which I really don't want to happen. I just want her to know that I love her and I want to spend my life with her. Please try to understand the urgency of the situation and thanks in advance for all the help.
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reader, Moo's Mum  +, writes (31 July 2011):
 You need to tell her how you feel and then you will know whether or not to keep pursuing this or not. Just be straight up about it with her. Say "Name, I really like you, I like you more than a friend what do you think about that?"
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