A
male
age
51-59,
anonymous
writes:I've been married for about 3 years now and the wife and I had female friend and our relationship with her went a little farther than friendship. For my birthday the two of them had a little surprise for me in the pool. It never went as far as sex, but real close. About 3 months later we were sitting around the fire joking around and the idea of the girls giving me a hand job came up. They smiled and said we should go inside. About an hour later , I was making love to my wifes best friend and now I can not get her out of my mind. She is everything I was looking for smart, funny, sweet, many of the same interests. I know she feels something too, after we kissed, I don't know how to describe it, but as that little stare when you feel something for someone. When she was around we always flirted and when we could caress each others hands. How can I tell her how I feel. My wife thinks we would be great together too, which is strange. Guess she wants me to be truly happy. Am I crazy. Is it just lust. Could she actually be what I am looking for. I have drove by her house that is 5 minutes away, but can not get myself to stop. I think about her everyday and I am just going crazy over it. I'm too old for a high school crush situation.
View related questions:
best friend, crush, flirt, hand-job Reply to this Question
Share |
Fancy yourself as an agony aunt? Add your answer to this question! A
reader, anonymous, writes (17 December 2008): I say if all adults are consenting, ask her to move in with you & your wife. Nothing like starting your own suburban harem albeit on a small scale. Then assign a role to each woman as in wife as primary care-giver & her nubile friend as secondary $#ck-mate.
Life's too short to spend obsessing over whether you love someone or not when quite clearly what you really want to do is not called 'making love'
When things start to get boring, scout around for a new recruit or just go back to the conventional. Choices choices...
A
female
reader, anonymous, writes (12 December 2008): Guess what it is lust! Remember how you felt about your wife when you first got married?? Is it possible that it is just new and exiciting to you? Your wife was a comlete idiot for having a three some with you and you should not have gone a long with it. It is cheating breaking vows and stupid. I know because I've been involved in three somes before and and I was always the non girlfried the third party and guess what the guy ALWAYS fell for me and wanted me after but i'm positive if you were married to her friend and your current wife was the third party ypu'd be gaga for her too!! So think with your head not with your dick Please!!! for the sake of society as a whole. On the other hand if your wife doesnt love you enough to want you to be faithful than you should have a serious talk. Maybe your both not the marrying type maybe you have no integrity. So by God break up!! but please get your balls snipped so you dont bring poor innocent children (you know the product of making love!!) into this "cluster f*ck" or they will be in counciling for years and wont know what a true commitment is!!!
...............................
A
male
reader, anonymous, writes (12 December 2008): Love is never easy, you can not control when or who you love, she might be the right one for you, but you need to be open and honest about it with your wife
...............................
A
female
reader, deejuliet +, writes (12 December 2008):
 If you are talking about leaving your wife for the friend I would have to say that I am against that idea. It wasnt really clear from your post if that is what you meant. However, it seems that your wife and the friend are both very open about the idea of you having a relationship with the friend AS WELL as with your wife. This may seem like cheating, but it isnt as long as your wife approves and knows about it all. I suggest you sit down with your wife and have a very honest conversation. Tell her how much you enjoyed the previous encounters (was your wife present?)and were wondering how she would feel if you continued the relationship in this way with the friend. If she is fine with it, then go for it! If, however, she is not, then you need to put serious breaks on this. Right now you are feeling excited and obsessed because it is all so new. It is just lust and infatuation right now and it is not worth ruining your marriage over.
...............................
A
reader, anonymous, writes (12 December 2008): I guess this is a fantasy most men would love to enact, and no doubt it's great fun, but I think jealousies would surface eventually if it was perceived that you were attending to one more than the other.
You're all adults, so I'd say if it's something you're all happy with then go ahead and enjoy the fun while it lasts.
You say you're too old for a high school crush situation, but in all probability that's exactly what it boils down to.
...............................
A
female
reader, eyeswideopen +, writes (12 December 2008):
 You are never too old for a crush, by the way. However since your wife is so open minded, I think it's time to sit down with her and tell her how you feel. How much do you love your wife? You didn't mention how you feel about her.
...............................
|
