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anonymous
writes:I am in love with My neighbor.I've known my neighbor lady for about 2 years..she had a boyfriend who lived with her...he didnt treat her very well,drank alot,and for a few months now he is gone every week for work, last week-end she kicked him out after his actions from drinking. I have for along time had deep feelings for her..we talk,chat daily daily,we seem to connect on so many levels and have a great time together..she lives right next door so we meet outside to smoke. I find myself staring at her and not being able to stop thinking about her..Its only been afew days since she and her b/f split but she goes out of her way to see me,talk to me..how do I know if she's interested or not in me as more than a friend?
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reader, Sugarbuns  +, writes (23 August 2007):
 Well, why don't you invite her over to your house to watch a movie or have pizza with you and see what develops. Good luck.
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reader, anonymous, writes (23 August 2007): Well you both appear to be now single so why not ask her out for a drink or dinner, then take it from there.
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reader, skye  +, writes (23 August 2007):
 Its a bit early for you to attempt to find out her feelings towards you just yet. She is in a vulnerable position right now and you could get the wrong answer for the wrong reasons. I wouldnt want you to get hurt.
For now, simply be her friend for that is what she needs. Listen when she talks to you, laugh with her and generally enjoy her company. If she wants to tell you about her exs treatment of her, listen and agree with her decision to throw him out (everyone deserves a respectful relationship), but do not judge. Show her the caring, decent and friendly person that you are.
Invite her into your house for tea/coffee when you meet outside someday. Dont push your relationship. Simply allow it to unfold. I believe that the best relationships are formed from a deep friendshiop and you are already halfway there with this lady.
When some time has passed(you will know when it feels right, for it is different for everyone) and you are both totally at ease with eachother, suggest that you take your coffee break to a nice cafe. Perhaps suggest going to the cinema or for a nice drive in the country afterwards. She wont run a mile. She will trust you and see you for the nice person you are. If she is interested she will agree. If she is otherwise involved or just not ready yet, she will find a kind way of letting you down. I cant see why she would not agree though. You arent offering marriage....simply coffee and the cinema!
See where this takes you. You have got to try.
I will keep my fingers crossed for you. I wish you the very best of luck.
Skye
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