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writes:well am 24 from pakistan,live with a cousin o mine in a foreign country , his family lives with him and i share a room in his apartment , well the thing is am in love with his wife ! i know it must sound bad but i cant help it ,on the other hand i hav a steady gf which i plan to get engaged in the next year , but we hav a long distance relationship and get to see each other like only in summers, well this woman i am in love with my cousin's wife she is 38 but i find her to be very beautiful , well we at first were good friends, we used to sit and chat for hrs and all then eventually we ended up kissing one day and since then we do kiss and make out and all nearly every chance we get to do it , with the kids in the house its usually like 15 mins a day o alone time but even in those 15 mins my heart goes crazy ,her smell even makes me weak at the knees ,whn she is with me i find her to be very happy cuz well i treat her with the utmost care and all even whn we went out to the mall she behaved like she was my gf and all,even whn we were on vacation in our home country she sneaked out to see me used to talk to me late nites on the phone! gets sorta angry whn dont hav time for her and well in short she feels like a girl and me bein her bf whn she is with me !well the thing is wht am i to do abt this cuz i know there is no future and sometimes i feel i might be puttin her in a bad spot and even tht wht i feel and say to her tht if she tries to find that in her husband she would never be able to and tht would distance her from him , jus a quick note on the husband he is a very borin kinda guy ,but for now i jus feel as if i need to keep doing it cuz i cant let her go ? for ppl who suggest tht i continue to hav this affair do tell me how to make her be more comfortable with me cuz well some days she is better and kisses back more but some days she is not so sure if she is doin the right thing or some days she has guilt and all but i assure u that i dont hav the hit and run feelin with her i really wanna be someone tht she can count on and be a meaninful friend thru our lives !
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reader, anonymous, writes (23 July 2010): forget this love.....it's my advice.and keep far away from her.
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reader, anonymous, writes (23 July 2010): Hello, I'm originally from pakistan too (not that it matters), anyway I'd advise you to stop right there. Your cousin has a lot of trust in you by letting you stay alone with his wife and he's welcomed you into his home, and you don't have any respect for him or his children by conoodling their mother, you'd be perceived by them as a homewrecker. His wife should know better, but obviously she isn't getting any by her "boring" husband, she justs wants to feel like a little girl again. I assume her husband goes out to work whilst you have some alone time with his wife, he's the one earning bread (roti) on the table.
Not to mention you are cheating on your poor girlfriend, who lives miles away from you, and she must trust you alot, but sure you don't deserve it after what you are doing.
You don't love her, if there was love, you'd be grown up about this and stop this seedy little affair. if you really love eachother, she should end her marriage with her husband, arrange custody of her kids and then start a relationship with you.
I hate to talk about culture and I don't know about your family, but I think if all this goes out in the open, the majority of the blame will be put on her, people get killed over this sort of crap. You are forgetting about the whole izzat issue. Your just a toyboy for her, some excitement but like I said before, if you are serious about her, you'd try to make this whole situation right by ending your relationship with your gf and she ending her relationship with her husband.
Hope that helps and hope I'm helping you get out of a possibly deadly situation.
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