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writes:I'm an 18 year old catholic girl living in England, which means i can't have sex before marriage and nor should i agree with extra marital affairs. Usually i would stick to this because i am quite devout, but i have found myself falling for my Politics lecturer at college. He's older than me and married, but the only reason i started liking him is because my friends pointed out how much he flirts with me. He always stares at me during lesson and when he sees me and my friends in the library he will only ever talk to me, and pretend he hasn't really noticed them. There are also plenty more obvious signs that he likes me, so knowing that he likes me isn't an issue. He's also supporting me at the moment because my mum is ill, so i suppose i'm attracted to him because he's caring and a real gentleman.I know i shouldn't, but i do really like him, and i'm leaving college soon so i want to set things straight with him. Morally i'm against starting anything with him, but i really want to. What do i do?Don't bother lecturing me or calling me a slut or whatever, because trust me, i fully know the implications this could have.
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reader, Wolfheart  +, writes (6 April 2009):
 This is not a very isolated situation as some might think.. it happens quite a lot.This 'gentleman's' motives may not be as pure as one may think. He may have seen one to many 'movies'. Or, he may be attracted to you and may find the idea of being with someone young and 'innocent' quite thrilling, especially if things in his life is not going as smooth as he may wish it. You may, in his mind, be the escape he needs.But don't do it. You're gut is correct. It will end up hurting you both a lot, and if you care for him you would not want to hurt him. I have experienced similar and I'm glad I did not go for him (even though I wanted it badly).Goodluck with that, and with your mother.
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reader, ArmyMedic +, writes (6 April 2009):
 Another Teenage girl telling us what not to write!
If you don't want honest answers why post the question?
Basically you should follow your true gut feeling (The one that says this is wrong), it is not fair on him or his family if you start messing with his head. It's so typical for girls of your age and religion to have these feelings but in a few years time you will be "in love" with some one else, but you'll have destroyed his family and career so you can be happy for a couple of months.
If you honestly understand the implications of what could happen then don't do anything about your feelings and move on.
DON'T EVER MESS AROUND WITH A MARRIED MAN! EVER!
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