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female
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41-50,
anonymous
writes:I know this sounds crazy but it is a problem I am dealing with. I have been in love with someone for several years now that is a friend of the family. He is older than me and it is a secret affair. I feel that I am very much in love with him and my situation breaks my heart because I know it breaks his too. I have recently met someone through my parents and have been dating him casually for a couple of months now. Feelings are starting to develop and I really think he may be someone I want to be with long term. I know that the first relationship will never lead to marriage or children or anything like that but I dont want it to end. He knows I have been dating this guy but doesnt like the idea of sharing me. He knows that I will get married to someone else some day but isn't ready for it yet. I really don't know what to do because I don't want to hurt either one...
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reader, anonymous, writes (27 February 2009): Its not a question of hurting either - if they really love you then they will let you go and be proud of the time you shared.
I think you know the answer - let go of the family friend and enjoy the feeling of mutual respect and love you have for each other. Be pleased that you have a friend (intimate or not) behind you. Give love a chance with the new guy.
Hugs.star.x.
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