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writes:I'm deeply in love with a guy that completely uses me. He flatters me (an unusual occurance for anyone to) non-stop until I feel safe enough with him and trust him enough to take my clothes off, on webcam. Then, he'll reluctantly talk to me and if i ask him if he meant what he said then he'll say that he did, but isn't going to the next big party, when three days later he'll tell me he is.. and is going to hook up (kiss) with this other girl. How can i get over him? I think about him all the time and try to justify what he does to me. I know it's wrong. But I don't have anyone that tells me I'm the most beautiful woman they've ever seen, and it seems I live for the times he finally decides he wants to use me again.Please help. It's really getting me down. I cry almost everynight over it. Reply to this Question
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reader, smeedle +, writes (29 November 2006):
 Wow you have it bad for this snake, you know he is treating you badly and yet you cannot stop seeing him and wanting him, sadly the only time he wants you is when he wants a bit of fun and then he flatters you to get it then dumps you again when he has had it.
Time to take stock and realise that he will never change, he will continue to use and abuse you, he will rob you of any respect or self worth you have for yourself.
Do not take your clothes off on web cam again there is no reason for you to be doing this and you dont know how he is using the web cam or who is watching you.
Ditch him and move on, you will find Mr Right but not if you stay and be abused by Mr Wrong.
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reader, AngelofLove +, writes (29 November 2006):
 Hey sister, BE STRONG and let this to carry on. It is self destructive, you self esteem will be affected and as you are vulneable by your deep feelling towards him, it makes you blind. You want to believe that flatter is real and he means it. This guy knows what buttons to press to get what he wants. You are worth more than that!
Distance from this guy is how you are going get your self respect back and get over him, STOP FEEDING THE HABBIT, HIS AND YOURS!
A lot of us have been in similar situation and what woman does not want to hear nice things and to feel desired. He is bad news and as soon as you stop wasting your time on this guy who uses you the sooner you will find a better person for you. Take it from me, it is hard and it is not worth it. But you need to ignore him completly to move on and stopped hurting inside. You are not an object to be picked and dropped from a shelf.
May your inner strenght awaken and give you the will power you need to be find real love. Lots of hugs from me.
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