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30-35,
anonymous
writes:I had a friend that I was really close to and I fell in love with him he was my really good friend...so I told him how I felt now he hates me and I can't get him off my mind...how can I make him listen to the fact that I never wanted things to end this way and that I never ment to push him away help please I miss him so much!!!
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reader, anonymous, writes (10 June 2009): Well, I am sorry that your good friend took your confession of love and bolted the friendship. However, once deeper feelings are revealed it does make it more difficult to remain just friends, that is the risk you take to find love and you took it. So don't beat yourself up about it. I seriously don't think he now hates you, he probably was just taken aback, unnerved by it all and needs time to process it. He may also be afraid that he is leading you on by being around you.
I would just back off and leave him alone for the time being and in time he will probably contact you if he is your good friend. If not he is being a little immature about the whole thing and he ought to be able to talk to you about it, but like I said if he is immature he may not be able to talk to you.
Just write him a handwritten note and tell him you are sorry if you made him feel uncomfortable that you respect that he doesn't feel the same way you do and hope that you can still keep your friendship, that you are OK with that...and then wait for his response.
Don't over apologize or cry or beg or carry on or that will just push him even farther away.
In the meantime, stop thinking so much about him and hang out with your other friends and stay busy. You did not do anything wrong in telling him your feelings.
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