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*oedestiny
writes:i and my husband both had engaged in an affair. him 2 months and he ended it. i cannot end mine. we're trying to patch things for our child yet its not working. i had a one night stand with my senior and after that a 2nd one followed. in between also he was asking me out. he is engaged now. i feel happy with him and i know he feels the same. our sex is non stop. how can i know if it is real now? can he fall for me or im assuming?
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reader, saxxathnm  +, writes (27 August 2011):
Im afraid I have to agree he is cheating on his fiance with you...even if he does leave her what says he wont turn around and cheat on you.
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reader, anonymous, writes (20 August 2011): Don't keep your marriage together for your kid, keep it together for the sake of yourself and your love (if any) for your husband. If you can honestly say there's no love left, then the marriage is already dead and by not divorcing already you're just being an obstructionist in your own life.
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reader, noraynoray  +, writes (19 August 2011):
You're not a bad person. He's the moron in this situation. And btw, as someone said, he is actually NOT being real to his fiancee either. Save yourself and run.
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reader, moedestiny +, writes (19 August 2011):
moedestiny is verified as being by the original poster of the questionthanks i was just hurt rest assured im not a bad person.
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reader, anonymous, writes (19 August 2011): Do not try to patch your marriage just for your child. People who do this end up just prolonging the inevitable divorce. Those are two separate "worlds." You can't make your heart want someone that it naturally doesn't, for the sake of your child.
You better learn how to get divorced amicably and raise your child in a healthy way as a divorced couple.
Then you can pursue whichever new man you want, and it will have nothing to do with your child.
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reader, two_outta_three +, writes (19 August 2011):
Honey.... You know the answer... He is ENGAGED to someone else. He is REAL with someone else. If he drops the engagement and proposes to you, then maybe you have something to consider. Otherwise, go find a new guy...
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reader, anonymous, writes (19 August 2011): HELLO??? Are you even "listening" to what you're saying??
He has become ENGAGED since you've been together... and I assume it's not to you.
He has no interest in a future with you. He's cheating, too, on his fiance.
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reader, TrancedRhythmEar  +, writes (18 August 2011):
 If the relationship is based solely on sex, it will fail... no matter how good the sex is and no doubt two ppl would be happy if theyre constantly getting some. I would break ties with this guy until u can get a stable environment for your child. I find this behavior irresponsible and arguably neglectful, and I do say with respect. Good luck.
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reader, anonymous, writes (18 August 2011): Firstly don't be so selfish - think of your child in all this. Secondly think of your husband - yes he had an affair but game over he stopped it after 2 months....if you don't want to be with your husband then break up with him and be with someone else but cheating is just irresponsible and greed
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reader, anonymous, writes (18 August 2011): You're hoping for a fantasy. You're having constant sex and he's enjoying you, sexually speaking. You may feel happy with him, but how do you know he feels the same? What man wouldn't be happy with "non stop sex"? You're taking his sexual interest in you to mean that he has feelings for you.
If he liked you as you think he does, why do you think he got engaged to another woman while asking you on dates and having sex with you? Think about that. Chances are he just sees you as a great sex provider. You had sex with him while married, so why would he even take you seriously?
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reader, anonymous, writes (18 August 2011): First of all, don't ever patch things for a child. Be real, childs deserve the truth and will adapt to new situations easier than adults.Sex non stop is good. You seem to have a deep connection with him. Just look for usual signs, is he trying to get long eye contact all the time? How often does he call you? If you're still unsure just ask him.
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