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male
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30-35,
anonymous
writes:I've been single for 8 months now and it's about time I start dating again, the only thing is I've been trying to date for the past 8 months that I've been single without any luck. I'm not like those other guys that just take long breaks between relationships, I'm just not successful even when it comes to finding a date.I've made several dating profiles online which is really my only way I can get to know anyone since there's no one at work I have interest in and I don't go anywhere else really. Out of all these profiles only one site do I actually get women talking to me. I have no problem getting their numbers, the problem I have is I'm such a bore. I feel as if I never have anything to talk about, all my conversations are small talk and everyday I just ask what they are up to, etc, and becase of this many lose interest in talking rather quickly. The few that continue to talk to me I still struggle with because I still never have anything interesting to say. They did agree however to go out with me so I guess I can find a date but I just feel that if I can't connect over the phone then what should I expect if I decide to see them? I just need advice on what to do and how to appraoch people on dating sites so I can come across more interesting and have more to talk about.Another thing i didn't mention is I currently have a prescription for Adderall Rx and have been taking it for the past year and a half. The reason I'm mentioning this is because I feel that it has affected my personality and the way I communicate. I was in a relationship for 5 years, I've always been talkative and funny with my ex and everybody really, but I have a feeling this medication has altered my social skills. If anyone else also is or has taken these meds and experienced the same problems please let me know. I've really been considering getting off of them since I don't think I really have adhd,
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reader, sugarplum786  +, writes (16 November 2012):
 Hi, why cant you discontinue the meds and ask for alternatives if necessary.
YOu should try talking to girls about what they like , dont like, whats their idea of fun? Description of their ideal mate. If you are comfortable ask them of their idea of a perfect date, how they would like to be romanced? Girls love it when men show they care and take an interest in their likes and dislikes.
Also before proceeding to romantic day, ask them if they up for a movie or lunch with a friend, so there is no pressure on either party. Learn to have friends and enjoy their company and the rest will come naturally. You are puting to much pressure on yourself. Just go out and have fun. If it works out great, if not put it down to a pleasant evening out.
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