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writes:ive been with my bf for 6 months and never had any problems with him before. last week while we were outside our flat a couple walked past us and i saw him look briefly in their direction and for no reason i instantly got paranoid and thought he was looking at the woman. well ever since then i havent been able to stop getting paranoid, every time he looks in someones direction i get paranoid and if i see a girl i look at him to see if hes looking. ITS GETTING OUT OF CONTROL! i know im being totally irrational because in my heart i trust him and i was never like this with him before. i have talked to him about it and he has told me just because he looks at someone doesnt mean hes checking them out its just because hes noticed someone and is being nosey. ive realised this is getting out of control and that i have a problem because now im starting to experience severe anxiety- racing heart, sweating, loss of appetite, trouble staying asleep, headaches, breathlessness. i have a doctors appointment tomorrow so hopefully they will be able to help because i really dont want to lose my boyfriend Reply to this Question
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reader, heartless420_1  +, writes (5 December 2008):
 Wow it will be okay. Sit down with him and let him know how it makes you feel when he looks at other girls. He more than likely wont stop but he may stop doing it in front of you! Comunication
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reader, baddogbj  +, writes (30 November 2008):
 Try to come to terms with the fact that he IS looking at other girls. Almost all men do. Some are better at hiding it than others. It is normal, we can't really help it but it has nothing to do with your relationship. It is just aesthetics. All that is going through our minds is "Oh, that looks nice" or "Nice bum, shame about the nose" and the thought has come and gone in a second. Most of the time I'm thinking something along the lines of "nice, but not as nice as [my wife]", or "Looks good now but put 15 years on the clock and 3 babies out of the chute and she won't be a match for [my wife]."
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